i really love my mother very much but she is really getting on my nerves sometimes i feel like you go on over the same stuf over and over again i m trying not to exploted but i been keeping my fellings bottled up for a long time now and im getting frustreated please sometime im with my husband in the room and she open the door without knoking she tells people you can go my daugther will be there without even asking me if i can do it and that really gets me mad also i have the problem that ui dont want to live with her and i have tell this a lots of time to her but she dosent seem to get it i think she dont want to get and i been planning to move out for some time and im sure i will be out by december at the most but her actitud its really driving me nuts could you help me?
2006-10-04 07:33:35 · 7 answers · asked by user 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes Sweetie, You need to move out as quckly as possible and move on with your life. Your mother has control issues and if you continue to stay there and let her think that it's ok to do these things then she will continue to do them. Besides it's not healthy for two grown women to be up under the same roof. The best relationship you can have with your mother is when you move out and have some distance between you two. Don't worry about her getting upset, she will get over it trust me. You need to be happy right now and you need to make those steps to see that you are. Good luck and take care!!!
2006-10-04 07:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! well try talking to your brothers or sisters, let them know how you feel and if they would like to have her over at their place from time to time. lock your doors also. Dont explode on her either, thats the last thing to do here, always calm and collective try to make her understand that your gonna move and the land lord has strick rules of who and who might move in, tell her for the first couple of "weeks" (months) no one else can move in till more house payments have been made. have your brothers or sisters have her at their homes. just dont sound "mad" when u say whatever it might be.
2006-10-04 14:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by K!LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the pains they get through taking care of us thus far.
I think u should not take the pain of keeping the feelings to urself.
You need to go through all the pain and gather all the effort to explain to her instead without offending her in any way.
Remind her you have grown up.
Parents always love us as much as they did when we were young. For them we are always their small kid.
2006-10-04 20:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU need to tell her how you feel and tell her she needs to respect you , your time, and your privacy. You definetly need to hurry and get out of the house as well; put some good distance between you and her.
2006-10-04 14:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that you are married and that you are an adult and that she is annoying you.
If she doesn't then tell her you are moving because she might change if you say you are moving out
2006-10-04 14:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to move and ignore her for a while she will come around and then tell her how u feel without hurting her feelings
2006-10-04 14:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by em_lady_em 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write her a nice letter and tell her what you feel and how much her action affects you........Probably she can't listen but she can read.
2006-10-04 14:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋