ok well I have been chatting with this guy online and he seems to be Mr. perfect. He knows just what to say to make me laugh, smile and to brighten my day. I live in Texas and he lives in Cali. We have been talking and I told him I want to go visit him so that we can see how things go if we even hit it off and he seems ok with it, but all my friends think I am crazy, they all tell me I should not go. What do you think shoudl I or shouldn't i? Is it all too good to be true? What should I do?
2006-10-04 07:31:53 · 34 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through the same thing. I met this guy , he was my vendor, and we talked all the time, we never exchanged pictures , this went on for 2 years !! I live in Cali and he lives in AZ, so we decided to finally meet, we picked a place that was 1/2 way. ( in your case that's kinda difficult) and the moment I saw him, I knew !! he was the one, this went on for 3 years, we dated, I wouldn't move, ( owned my home, family etc ) and he wouldn't. so after time we starting see less and less of each other, and not at all. Then I met someone 2 years ago and have a little girl and AZ boy and I are still friends. So sometimes it works, and sometimes you just end up having a great time and having a good friend. So my point is, if you decide to meet and things go great are you or he willing to move??
Also, how long have you been talking to him? do you really trust him ?? check him out !! I know it might sound sneaky, but you never know these days, he can be a psycho killer. Hey I live in California , San Diego, if he lives close to me I can check him out for you.. Be careful and go with your instincts, they are usually always right and he should come see you in Texas not the other way around..
2006-10-04 07:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never really do know with chatting online, he could be a fake he could be the real deal. I say if you guys have been chatting it p for a long time and you got pictures of what he looks like. It might not be a bad thing, to think about it I have a relative who just married his online crush, she lived in the USA and he lives here in Canada. There family was worried at first before the two met, but know they are happy with the new family. Its a 50/50 chance, and I would go with my gut feeling, it's not like he's pushing you to come, you made the first attempt. I would have a backup plan though, stay in a hotel, and let your Friends and family know where your going to be staying so they can contact you if hey get worried. Also having your own hotel is good, if things don't go good , then at least you have a place to go and stay.
2006-10-04 07:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by HotTherapist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a photo so you know what he looks like if you are going to try to meet him.
There's a whole set of safety guidelines for meeting people in person who you first met on the internet.
Meet in a neutral, populated place, like the food court in a mall, have a friend or two with you during the first meet.
Cali is a cool place, so a vacation there could be nice, even if the internet romance doesn't work out.
Sure, take a risk, but protect yourself by having a friend with, having a cell phone, meeting in public, etc. And then have fun in Cali if it doesn't work out.
2006-10-04 07:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd travel the world for Mr. Right if I can...if he's waiting with open arms. Just make sure that you have all the pertinant information about him.
That your friends and family do too. Stay someplace where you feel safe, research ahead of time. Dont go completely blind about itall. Be safe girl. California isnt exactly a foreign country with a completely different culture. You kind of already know what to expect from the natives. hehe Just keep your head about you! Arrange all months in advance and keep good communication prior. Just be smart about it all, k? Good luck. :)
2006-10-04 07:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say how long you have been chatting with him.
You know, once you start chatting with someone on a continuious basis, and it has alot to do with what kind of mood you were in........really it does!! They can always start off as Mr. or Miss Perfect, but once you get to chatting awhile longer and get in different moods, you can decide if it is crazy or not.
I'd wait until you have known he for quite awhile before jumping on down the road. If he's a cool dude, time will only make you see that for sure for a longer period of time.
Maybe you best listen to your friends on this one!!
2006-10-04 07:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be I met a great guy online(we didn't live in different states)but I think I would have him meet you the first time on safe ground which means around your area,friends and family. Oh by the way I now live with this guy and we are getting married in 6 mos! Be careful and good luck!
2006-10-04 07:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go ahead and meet the guy. But on your playing field- tell him to get, asap, a flight ticket to TX, along with a good hotel reservation in your town... and place 1-2 of your football- playing friends in the lobby, just in the case he needs some help with the luggage, clear.
This way, you'll find out more about:
a) his financial situation
b) if he's what he's pretending to be
c) his capability to find a good excuse.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 07:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Paul F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this don't normally turn out well. I suggest you not meet this guy as you do not know what type of person he is or if he is really what he tells you he is. I have seen stories like this on dateline many times and it saddens me that many women fall for this stuff. For all we know the guy could be a pyscho, just stay where you are and try to find a nice guy in your area.
2006-10-04 09:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WORD hey i can relate cuz ive been going out with someone from Texas too and im in cali...its not easy i got to admit but you get to know the person better then just because of their looks... oh and no i havent killed her LOL it works out though
2006-10-04 07:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by orlando 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends could be right. He could be a fat, nasty guy wearing boxer shorts and suspenders
that scratches the big ole pimples on his rear while he chats with you. You really don't know anything about him and to even think about taking off to visit with him IS crazy. On the internet people can be anything or anyone they want to be. Life is to short to begin with, and to even think about taking off to meet someone you only know on-line is not real smart. But hey, in the end it is all up to you. If it was me I would listen to my friends though.
2006-10-04 07:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋