I knew this guy a few years ago, but nothing really came of it. Now we are together, and I really like him. His weight issue is not only appearance, but its very unhealthy. I want us to be happy for a long time, i just dont know how to express this to him.
2006-10-04 07:20:44 · 41 answers · asked by real bored at work.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Change the way you both eat .... start exercising with him ... and make him sweat a lot during sex ... that's all I did with my man and he's lost 35 lbs ... we have a lot of sex though ... lol ... !
You really don't have to "tell" him ... just suggest that you both live healthier ... what you wrote was sweet ... let him know you don't want to lose him because of something that can be changed ... !
2006-10-04 07:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend!------I am so sure that he is aware of the problem! But he is the one who chooses not to do anything about it! If it's bothering you like that-----if it were me, I would tell him nicely the 1st time. And let me just ask this question, do you 2 live together? Are you the one preparing the meals? Because if so, you're kind of responsible as well. There are ways to tell people about their weight issues without hurting their feelings. Because if you put pressure on a heavy person, sometimes it makes them eat more. My boyfriend is putting pressure on me to eat because I only eat 1 meal a day. Try to help him cut back on carbs like bread, rice, potatoes, chips, salt, (use Mrs. Dash as a salt substitute); no sweets; there are so many things that he can eat and enjoy without it being fattening such as: Granola; Bran muffins; yogurts; salads with grilled chicken no fried foods at all. Girl I wish I was next to you with him because if I was in the kitchen he would eat what I prepare or starve! And I'd take all of his money and credit cards from him so he can't sneak off to the stores or order a pizza with credit. Put you foot down girlfriend! Put your foot down and keep it there until he sheds the weight!
2006-10-04 07:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a great exciting cookery book full of mouth watering low cal recipes and you be the one to show him the way, but the weight can't be that much of an issue if you started dating him in the first place. I suggest rather than raise the weight issue and risk hurting or ridiculing him, you sow the seed and get you apron and oven on and gently introduce him to the delights of a healthier menu. Like that line in that crappy baseball film with Kevin Costner, "Build it and they will come"
2006-10-04 07:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said it. Tell him what you stated to us. You want the two of you to be happy a long time and your afraid his weight could take him away to soon.
If you are friends you can tell him and he should accept your input.
You might trying going to gyms and other places and work out together. It is easier for heavy people if they have a friend to support and be there for them.
2006-10-04 07:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. You can try and get him to do more active things that will burn calories, but if you bring up that he needs to lose weight, he more than likely will go on the defensive. I have learned from personal experience that people won't lose weight until THEY are ready to. My husband is heavy and I never say a word to him about it. I tell him I love him no matter what and when HE feels ready to lose weight, I will support HIS decision.
2006-10-04 07:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any way that you tell someone the truth about themselves hurts, but it needs to be done. Instead of telling him you can help him by trying to always eat better but good or get him involved with some kind of activities. Or you can just tell him and pray that he is not offended. But also let him know that you're just trying to keep him around because you really love him!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-04 07:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by passthevasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him how much you care about him and that you want to have a future with him. Also Suggest that you both join the gym together. If you are fortunate enough to spend alot of time together it will really help, and he will realize that you are there to help support him emotionally. I think that will do it. good luck.
2006-10-04 07:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Amador1_79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you are going to start getting into shape. You don't have to be overweight to exericse. Buy some exercise equipment or a membership to a local gym. He may never get the point, but tell him that you want to start getting stronger. He might go to the gym with you.
2006-10-04 07:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no nice way of saying it. The fact that your even bringing it up is going to let him know that you think he's fat even if you do put it nicely. I hope you can find the right words. Otherwise tell him good bye.
2006-10-04 07:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by StephanieM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to invite him over for a nice, healthy dinner. Do more physical type of things to make sure he gets exercise. If anything say "Honey, I just want to make sure you are healthy because I want to be with you for a long time". That should inspire him!
2006-10-04 07:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋