my 14 yr old son started having problems last yr., not caring about school or chores, gets angry easy and for little things, constantly telling lies, my husband and I are grounding him all the time and it doesnt help. We decided to get some family counseling, so we can better communicate and encourage our son to open up, take pride in things, and be honest. Has anyone else been through this? What happened? I am nervous as is my son. Any help is appreciated.
2006-10-04 07:20:27 · 5 answers · asked by Jamie M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a social worker, so that's why I'm answering.
First, I am SO incredibly proud of you for doing family counseling rather than sending your son off because he is the "problem." You don't know how often that happens! I think it will be beneficial for your family to address things in this way. Continue trying to be patient with your son and praising him for every good thing he does. Don't let the negatives outweigh the positives. Just keep encouragin him. Take it one day at a time. Just remember, the first therapist you find is not always the one for you!
2006-10-04 07:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get a good counsellor, they can help immensely, and as a neutral party in the mix, will stress your son's autonomy and responsibility, preparing him for an adult world.
Unfortunately, he is right in the middle of adolescence, and the brain chemistry is totally messed up at that age, and even though they may be rational some of the time, there are times when they would be certifiable if they were an adult.
I have yet to go through that with my child. You have my sympathies, be strong.
2006-10-04 14:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that troubled child and was just trying to get attention but it didn't work. Now i see that i reward my child who is the good one and does what she is suppose to do. Counseling for the family didn't work for our family, I had to have counseling on my own.
2006-10-04 14:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to push your buttons to see how far he can get before you retaliate for his actions. Most likely this was caused by peer pressure he is being teased, single out, or just plain left out by his so called friends. And, yes get help now before he decides to turn to drugs for his emotional relief.
2006-10-04 14:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression. Getting help is definately the right route to take.
2006-10-04 14:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋