Do people look down on women who don’t want to move up in their career and focus on their family instead?

Question

My wife is 24, she went to college and has a great job in accounting with great benefits and good pay.

She has been working since she was 15 and working full time since she was 18 and building a career.

She really loves the company she works for and has no desire to gain a high paying job that includes a lot of stress.

She told me that she likes her position and doesn’t want a job where she has to work more than 40 hours a week or stress over.

We bought a home and live a comfortable life and she says she is okay with having a moderate career.

My wife said she wants to have a family soon and doesn’t care about being high up in a company.

She doesn’t want to be too involved in her career and would rather focus most of her attention to our marriage and family.

Do people look down on women who don’t want to move up in their career and focus on their family instead?

Answer 1

people do that.....but forget them....do what makes you and your family happy and whats best for them.....people who look down on women for this are just wishing they could do the same....

Answer 2

This is very important for both of you to understand. What counts first and foremost is that she is satisfied and happy with what she is doing. If you are both happy that is even better. It really doesn't matter what other people think about your career, they are not the one that is living it. They need to worry about their own. Your wife sounds like she has it together. When she has children and you start your family, it is most important for a mother to be with her children. She nurtures them and prepares them to be adults. Having children is the most important thing a woman can do and they will need your love, support, guidance forever. Nurturing them as they grow is and awesome experience and should be cherished even before you have children. The father plays a very important role also. You both need to work together on decisions for the children and let them see how things are done properly and loving each other is very important. That and being happy and not taking life too seriously and letting the children see that. So don't worry about what other people think. It is your family and your choice. Your marriage is also very important. Don't forget each other. You don't exchange relationships,you add to it with children. Time alone together is important. Keep in mind that you got together first. The children do leave home one day. You will want them to see that Mom and Dad love each other and they can take that to their relationships. Enjoy every moment.

Answer 3

No. I think what people have the most admiration for is a woman that has a career that she's happy with and does well at (not necessarily that she's CEO of a company or anything), and who is also a devoted and attentive wife and mother. One who knows her limits and is able to balance the two very effectively.

It depends a lot on the company that she works for as well, though. Some companies emphasize the work/family balance (I've been fortunate that my present and past employers were very much about those - successful, large companies, but they also stressed the importance of home/work balances), and those are the types of companies that she'll want to stick with.

Answer 4

I applaud her for her choice. I too am a working mother and before I had my little girl, I was also more career driven. Now I am very content with my comfortable job which is very close to home and the daycare. My boss is very understanding and if I need to go home early, it's never a problem with him. Mind you, I'm the only female in the office. It also doesn't hurt to have good pay (as much as my husband's in fact).
My belief is if I am more a mother than a career woman, I have a better chance at raising children into decent adults and have a better shot at having a good married life. Please note, I said "better chance/shot" not guaranteed success.
Don't pay any attention to people who look down on this situation. They are just unhappy with their choices. As long as you are happy with your choice (no regrets) then you are doing great. It's good that she already found her "calling " this early in her life. As long as you are comfortable how you live your life...f__k them!

Answer 5

Sometimes, but these people usually don't have a family. Quality & quanity time are the best thinghs you can do for your children; and improve your marriage. I stepped down a position when I started having kids. With the way the world is to day, we have to teach them morals, and values of life before they even start school!

Answer 6

Some people do. No matter what life choices you make, some people will look down on it. Most women in our society seem quite insecure about their decisions regarding work-family balance, and for some of them, when they see women who have made different decisions, it makes them feel defensive. This works both ways - stay at home moms feeling like they are dull and uninteresting and perceived as doing nothing, and busy working moms who feel like they are failing their children.

Answer 7

Some people do, but I admire them so much more than I admire the people who are "high up" in their compaines. It is just a job. Your time spent with your family is so valuable. It is priceless.
Read this:
I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.

He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said good-bye.

But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,

"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you! use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.

"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they'r! e pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."

I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company
that we are working for could easily replace us in
a matter of days.
But the family we left behind will feel the loss
for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work than into our own family,
an unwise investment indeed,
don't you think?

Answer 8

My wife quit her nursing career and stayed home with our new child for five years. The finances took a hit, but my family is so much better off! I am proud of her, and love her dearly! She has the hardest job of all -- a stay at home mom. And it never ends! She works so hard...not for money...not for power...not for material things...but out of love! She is a light in a dark world, and I love her for it!

Answer 9

Some people do, but they shouldn't! Your wife sounds like she has everything like she wants. That's really good! As long as you are financially OK I wouldn't worry about what people may think!

Answer 10

I admire women who are willing to give up the lifestyle and actually be a mother to their children. If daycare is raising your child, can you really even call it yours?

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