Should I..?

Question

Should I have a boyfriend and I am 12? Some people say i am too young. But I love him, and I don't think I am too young. What do you think? Thanks.

Answer 1

go for it

Answer 2

That all depends on what "having a boyfriend" means to you. If you're contemplating having sex, then yes, you are too young. Loving someone else at age 12 is way different from loving someone at say 18 or 25 or even 30. You'll understand with each year that you get older.

So, if you mean you want to spend time with this boy and get to know him and hang out, hold hands, talk on the phone all hours, and share interests that's one thing. But you need to know that adolescent boys entering into puberty have a different agenda than girls do at this age: their minds are on sex. Nothing wrong with that, it's just the makeup of a young male. Don't be surprised if the expectation that comes along with having a boyfriend means he wants to have sex. Most girls just want to be around the boy of their dreams and swoon over him and hold hands and kiss and have all of their friends and everybody see them with this boy and know that they are "going together." Most girls aren't thinking necessarily that they're going to be taking their clothes off and having sex with the boy.

If you are thinking about having sex, then you'd better do some heavy duty thinking about the consequences that can come with having sex. These days getting pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen from having unprotected sex. There are all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases, the worst being HIV/AIDs, then hepatitis among the worst. These diseases can affect anyone. Don't make the mistake of thinking that boys and girls don't get these diseases or that because somebody is young and cute they couldn't possibly have a disease. ANYBODY having unprotected sex can get a sexually transmitted disease.

So, ask yourself what it is you are really looking for - there are a lot of responsibilities and things to consider once you start having boyfriends. Are you ready for all that? This is all people mean when they say you are "too young." They don't stop to explain all of the things you'll need to consider. They figure you either don't want to hear it or won't listen or they don't know how to get through to you.

I remember my parents telling me I was "too young" for certain things and I didn't understand why until I got older and I'd gone through some experiences and realized that what they were telling me was true. There are many things you won't understand until you get older and that is just the way it is.

Answer 3

I agree you are to young. You don't even know what true love is. I mean I am 20 and I am not even sure if I know what real true love is. You have a whole life ahead of you. Just be single for a while and then when the time is right everything will fall in place for you to have a boyfriend. Don't rush into anything!

Answer 4

What is your defition of a boyfriend? If you mean he likes you and you like him and you talk while your in school, but don't see each other during the weekends, then if your parents say ok, I guess it's fine,,,,but

if you want to go out with him during the weekend and if you want to kiss and do other things. Then Yes, I think you are too young.

Answer 5

I am not sure that it will matter to you what we think.

Twelve is too young to have a boyfriend! And with your hormones raging, love changes every few days!

Answer 6

12 IS pretty young.

There should be a lot of things that are more important to a 12 year old.

And with "love", there are a lot of OTHER things that go along with it. Too many that I think that just are NOT for 12 year olds.

Answer 7

Don't say you love him. Your only 12, you can date i you want to, but just klnow it's not going to be serious at all. To me, I think its just a waste of time to date at your age. Have fun, enjoy your hildhood, don't worry about men for at leat 3 more years.

Answer 8

yes you are too young u got all your life to get a bf focus on skool right now thats wats important

Answer 9

I highly recommend that you do NOT have a boyfriend yet. Although I was in your same position with one of my ex's, I regret having a girlfriend back then.

Answer 10

waaaaaaaay to young,get one when your 25 and have some idea what you really want,in the mean time have fun and don't make life complicated for yourself,GL

Answer 11

you are not to young when i was that age every body hand a bf its normal for girls your age to have a bf i know i did so take a shot at it