the 2nd time caught them at a bar being groped by 2 people. Instead of apologizing for hurting me, I was accused of stalking, being overly jealous, and causing drama. Needless to say a ended the relationship. They said they had never cheated, but just what I saw (with them letting one guy put his hands down her pants, and the other on their chest) was cheating to me. Do you think I'm a stalker?
2006-10-04 07:08:34 · 9 answers · asked by NC_ski_bum70 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no not at all. If you don't look at for you who will. I think you had a right to know.
2006-10-04 07:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by JoAnn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not a stalker. You have your suspision and you had to find out the truth. Its better that you found out before it got even more serious, and he would of never told you the truth. They accuse you of stalking them because they dont want to look like they were doing anything wrong and try truning it around on you. But dont fall for it. You have a right to find out if your man is faithful or not. Once you find that one who you belong with, you will obviously be scared he will end up hurting you as did the rest. Just before you get into anything serious let the guy know about your past relationships and that you are completly against cheating. You need to end up trusting one time or another or you wont be able to have a serious relationship so you are going to have to do it slowly. If they guy has nothing to hide than he wont care if you check up on him time to time. But once you relaize that if you keep checking and your finding out hes telling the truth and is faithful to you, thats when you need to start trusting in his word. Take it slowly and i am sure he will understand.
2006-10-04 14:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you were stalking her if you didn't have suspicions that she was cheating on you because it's obvious that she wouldn't have been honest if you had confronted her instead of following her. What you saw was enough to constitute cheating even if that was as far as things have went between them. And she must have really been ashamed and embarrassed to try to shift the blame on you. I hope you will call it a lesson learned and don't make the same mistake again by believing her instead of your own two eyes. Good Luck.
2006-10-04 19:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a stalker. If I think my significant other was cheating on me, I want to know the truth. I mean I'll ask them and they deny it, but I know they are. I would go searching for the truth. I don't want nobody playing on me.
2006-10-04 14:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Akane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no it isnt ok to check up on anyone. If you think they are cheating you are either insecure or dont trust them. In either case, your better off playing the field and no strings attached.
Maybe he dropped a quarter and it went down her pants, **** i'd want my quarter back too!
2006-10-04 14:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor dear. I know how you feel I have been through it. No you are not a stalker. Do not stay with someone that cheats. You deserve better.
2006-10-04 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a stalker. thats not right that he'd do that. if you suspect something be upfront about it and ask. if he denies anything and your still positive that he is cheating than check up. its not stalking at all unless he's not your bf and if your being hurt becuase they are unfaithful.
2006-10-04 14:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a stalker, this person is just mad they got caught. Move on you dont deserve to be treated that way.
2006-10-04 14:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are right - it was cheating.
2006-10-04 14:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by hausfrau31557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋