I am curious. In your current or most recent relationship, how long did it take the guy (or you, if you're a guy) to say "I love you"? I know most men are commitment phobic, but why is saying it such a big deal if you feel that way?
2006-10-04 06:40:18 · 28 answers · asked by T.G. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It took my husband 2 weeks to tell me he loved me whe we were dating.
Not all men are the same and so it takes them different amounts of time to #1 recognize that they are "In Love" and #2 Grow balls big enough to say it.
You see, saying it means that you are transcending to another level in the relationship and even though a man might have very stong, infatuation, love tpye feelings for a girl...he might not be ready for where those feelings will lead him or his life.
Personally, I think it's a combination of fear and immaturity that keeps a man from expressing his love verbally.
2006-10-04 06:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you or the person you are with are truly inlove, then it will come out naturally and when you feel it. Maybe he is waiting because he isnt sure exactly how you feel? Or vice versa! Either way, it will come out if its meant to. Some people feel obligated to say it after they hear it and maybe that is what they are afraid of also.
It isnt a big deal to say it, its what is behind it that scares people. Some people say it too soon and then realize its not how the truly feel and that is when things go wrong. Just wait a little longer or if you cant wait, say it yourself if its how you feel. Love doesnt waste any time. Goodluck!!! :)
2006-10-04 13:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive only been in 2 relationships the first it took him 3 months, and we lasted for 5 years and we really did love each other but just wernt ment for each other. the second time only 2 weeks im still with this guy and i love him with all my heart and marrige is in the future. All guys, girls and relationships are different you could feel it instantly or it could take some time. It all depends on him and you and how well and quickly you click!
2006-10-04 13:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Colleen A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less than two weeks into the relationship we were saying I Love You. I was so scared at first it was moving too fast, but after well over a year and les thana year to the wedding I know its true love and we were meant to be. But my guy is very romantic emotional and sensitive. He's not like most men.
2006-10-04 13:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because people are afraid of being hurt. Love is a scary thing. (well to me it is) I have never said it first because i am to afraid they don't feel the same. I think people use the term of love to quickly. When your first start a new relationship everything is great and the two people are still getting to know one another and probably not truly themselves. I think love grows over time. My last relationship he told me loved me about 7 or 8 months into our relationship. People rush into love when they should be taking there time.
2006-10-04 13:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my current relationship it took about 2 weeks!! No kidding - I was surprised he would say something that important so soon into the relationship, but he says he knows what he feels & this is "it". He's wonderful - tells me every day that he loves me, it's usually the first thing he says to me when he wakes up in the morning & always the last thing he says before he drifts off to sleep - it's so nice to hear it!
2006-10-04 13:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my current relationship of 4 months (previously married for 16 years), the second i eluded to the word 'love' he made sure to tell me he wasnt interested in a serious relationship. he is 12 years younger than me, i think age has a lot to do with it. men will relate love with commitment. women do too but it is for the love of the person not necessarily the relationship. again, i think age is a factor in this as well. you dont have to be in a serious move in together relationship to love the person. im going to wait for him to let me know when he is ready to say the 'L' word. you should too. there is no rush. it is just a word. if you 'know' it then dont worry.
2006-10-04 13:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by deathwishpussy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question...I have been in a relationship for almost 2years and I guess you can say I am like most men , I am scared to say I love you. But I guess you should say it whenever you feel it. I tell him all the time I love him but I always told him for day one that when and if I ever tell you that I love you don't say it back unless you mean it. Just because someone tells you that they love you , you should have to feel like you should say it back.
2006-10-04 13:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by babygirlknox30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took my now husband 9 years to say I LOVE YOU. He would always say "Your loved too". We have been married 8 years and now he tells me at least a dozen times a day that he loves me. I guess it was worth the wait. I am very much in love. We have been together 17 years.
2006-10-04 13:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by bfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took me more than 5 months and I told her first! She has a history of some stormy relationships, though, and I didn't want to scare her away (if you can believe that) but I couldn't let her not know how I felt for her any longer.
2006-10-04 13:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋