This questions is more for men obviously. Am I the only one who prefers this? I am just wondering I can't be the only guy can I? Before anyone starts pratonising me saying I'll die old and alone eventually in my old age It doesn't bother me I like being on my own and have no problems with it in any way. So leave it out yeah. I am not affraid of "commitment" either I just plain don't want to be tied down ever because I love my own space too much and feel happy with my own company and have donesince my childhood. I also am not a needy person at all and I honestly have never had a wanting to be a dad I still don't and I felt like this since I was 14! so I feel I shouldn't have to change after all it's my life and I am the only one who will be living it not my family, friends, etc. Anyone else plan on living as a bachelor like me? I am 21 so I am fairly young I guess but I am also old enough to know this is what I want I don't change my mind easily on these things either.
Thanks
2006-10-04 06:39:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry, you're not alone in thinking like this! I'm a 25-year-old woman and I feel exactly the same way as you do. When I try to tell people that I don't want kids or marriage, though, I get the old "who'll look after you in your old age?" question (for the record, I think that fear of loneliness in old age is a totally selfish reason for having children). I've felt this way since I was 16 and I don't see myself changing my mind. My advice? Just stick to your principles and be yourself!
2006-10-04 08:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by chemical_sister_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there! I know this question is really for the boys but I will answer it anyway - ha!
I am a girl who feels the same way - I'm 32.
I have never really wanted children of my own, I'm happy to play with other peoples and give them back when I/they have had enough - selfish me!
If it was left up to my friends I would have 10 kids by now. Some of them think I'm mad for not wanting kids, and I get the same 'you'll be lonely when your old' rubbish.
I know many old people who have kids but are still lonely - kids move out and might move on for good.
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly five years and luckily he feels the same.
The only advice I can offer you is be true to yourself, don't let others dictate your wishes (sounds like you won't anyway). You might meet a girl who wants the same as you in life (we do exist) and you might live happily ever after. As long as you are honest with yourself and the world around you, you will be fine.
Having children isn't compulsory, and dont't let people pressure you into thinking its an essential part of your life becuse it isn't. Like I said, be true to yourself, and be open to the fact you might change your mind - be the master of your own destiny.
It takes allsorts to make the world, and you never know whats around the corner - good luck!!
2006-10-04 06:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ali 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37, and I'm so sure I don't want kids that I had a vasectomy--now how's THAT for being sure!
And no, I don't intend on being married either..I like being able to date different women.
2006-10-04 06:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to settle down or have kids. I am 41, have a great family and also a wonderful woman friend (really only a friend). I am not afraid of commitment, just do not see it as necessary. I also enjoy my own space, like not having someone to answer to every moment and am happy both when alone & with friends. My parents are still hopeful, but I am me and happy with that.
2006-10-04 06:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by hafalax 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 19, and i'd like to have kids, i mean, not now, but yeah, its something id really want if i am still in a solid relationship in say 4/5 years, and i have a job so i know i can support kids, i think it would be the MOST wonderful thing :-)
2016-03-18 04:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so i am not a guy, but if that is how you feel, that is how you feel, i am also 21 i already have a child and you know it took having him to realize that 21 is still young. you may change your mind someday and that's cool, but i agree with you enjouy your OWN space while you can and don't rush into anything. :)
2006-10-04 06:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by puppy love 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice going mate, I am 33 and still feel like you do at the moment, I do have down days when I doubt myself and think I am doing the wrong thing, then I see the kids off today with no respect and an overcrowded planet and feel that I am on the right track!
Why would anybody want to bring children into this world at the moment, I feel they are being selfish?
2006-10-04 07:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not enough wish i never got married and that's form a girl
2006-10-04 06:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got screwed really hard in a divorce marrid to an alky - never do that again. they will use your kid to bleed you dry and ruin your life - i also ended up driving almost 2000 miles a month foe visitation every other weekend!. and yes this is all true. so i have had an irreversible vasectomy-yesssss!. i will get married again - im just not going to do another life sentece because som selfish lyin piece of trash with their head up their *** wants to go STUPID!!!!!.
2006-10-04 06:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Currently I am 18 and I am not thinking of getting marries before the age of 26/7 or even 30. Not before my Doctorate degree definitely...
2006-10-04 06:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rodiak 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋