he was out all night and i was waiting for him to come back and i was sitting on the couch with the lights closed to catch him the instant he came back. As soon as he opened the door i asked him where have you been and he was like with some guy friends and i was like uh hello, i checked your cellphone and you dont have any guy friends and i know this because on your cellphone theres all females on there that list and he was like what why were you checking my cellphone and i was like because you always disappear and you dont tell me who your with so i had to take matters in my own hand and then i told him now tell me the truth, what were you doing out there and then he got mad and pushed by me to go upstairs and he went to bed. What do you think he was doing out so late i tried asking him but he gets mad and leaves the room
2006-10-04 06:38:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
because hes hot and sexy
2006-10-04 06:41:23 · update #1
With any luck he'll realize he is dating an immature, jealous, control freak and break up with you before you drag him down to your level. His life with you will be a living hell.
2006-10-04 06:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by dlobryan1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's not a very good boyfriend. I suspect he's got a few other girlfriends on the side. I would start packing my stuff up and finding someplace else to live. There are plenty of guys out there who would treat you better (i.e., tell you where they're going, come home at a reasonable hour, call to tell you if they're going to be late, tell you what they've been doing all night, etc.).
Just something I thought about- sitting on the couch with the lights off to catch someone the instance they come home sounds creepy. Next time you may want to have a light on, be sitting at the kitchen table at least pretending to read or do something constructive so that he doesn't think you're psycho.
2006-10-04 13:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have been cheating, or he may really have been with some male friends; without knowing the guy personally it's hard to tell. However, I think the real issue here is that you don't seem to trust him at all. You've secretly looked through his phone, which is pretty much the same as spying on him, so I can understand why he was angry with you.
If you feel you have reason to distrust your boyfriend, make time to sit down and talk to him, gently explaining why you're feeling insecure; don't put him on the spot and nag him like you're his mother- guys hate that and being confronted in that way makes them feel very defensive.
Acting distrustfully and dishonestly with him in this way is guaranteed to drive him away, even if he's not cheating. However, if you don't trust him to this extent, why are you with him? If you want keep him, you've got to calm down and have a rational conversation together. If he won't be honest or open then, I suggest you show him the door and find someone more worthy of your time.
2006-10-04 13:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, LEAVE!! Why in the world would you sit and stress about it knowing in your heart that he is doing something behind your back? Obviously if you are at home and he is out with "guy " friends (or even other women) there are issues. You should be doing things together. A little time away is a good thing, but not when one of you is sitting at home stewing about what the other person is doing.
2006-10-04 13:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by onewikkedwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"because he's hot and sexy" is not a good enough reason to be with someone that apparently disrespects you.
As was stated before there are plenty of hot and sexy guys out there that will give you the respect you deserve.
Leave this ****** with his cell phone and learn to love yourself so that you don't end up in another crappy relationship.
2006-10-04 13:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by silv2078 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could have been out with his guy friends, as he said, and didn't like being ambushed at the door. Could have been something more suspicious -- do you have other reasons for suspecting him of seeing other females? You seem to have relationship issues. Learn to "fight fair," for example it isn't useful to use phrases such as, "you always..." or "you never..." or any name calling. Good luck on ironing this out, you may be driving him away with your suspicions... or dead right that there is something to be suspicious about. Try having the "relationship" conversations in a less confrontational time and manner.
2006-10-04 13:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by BJD 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you think he was out doing? If I were you i'd go with my gut instinct on this one. Last time I had a weird feeling and had no evidence I did find out my man was trying to cheat on me with my best friend all because i had this weird feeling and actually had no suspicians at all I just came out and asked him if there was anything he needed to tell me and he blurted it out! 99% of the time go with your instinct.
2006-10-04 16:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by LKJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like to get in other people business but follow him one even he may be a mom's boy or he could be gay you must check it out before you waste more more of you time with him.
2006-10-04 14:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by hotbucks6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt that he is cheating on you with another woman. Some guys are wierd like that. they say they are out with the guys, and sometimes they are not lying about it. if i knew him, i could answer this better. if he drinks a lot he could have been out drinking with his buddys. anyway, try to find some more clues and then see..good luck
2006-10-04 13:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by LoveBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line: Whatever he was doing, it wasn't something he wants to share with you, and that means you need to dump the jerk and find someone who will respect you and want to be with just you.
Maybe he's cheating, maybe he's not. Either way, he's a jerk.
2006-10-04 13:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋