what can i do to make my marriage last? it seems like its drifting away and i really love my husband but it seems like we do the same borning stuff all the time and it doesnt feel like the love is there anymore ....i dont wanna get a divorce because the pain is soo hard to go through when u know that one person for so long
2006-10-04 06:34:47 · 15 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can start by telling him what you've said here.
2006-10-04 06:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing that you are going through right now so I can really understand you're feelings. I've been with my husband 26 years now. I really loved my husband from the first moment we got together and he made my eyes sparkle and my heart jump but now while I still love him and care for him alot my feelings are changing. The reason I feel like this is he isn't always supportive or understanding towards me and there are times that he makes me feel alone. Even though I have these feelings I can't imagine my life without him we have been together a very long time. The only suggestion I have for you is if you really love your husband then do everything in your power to hold on to your marriage.
2006-10-04 14:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by Susie B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through that now and divorce is my only option. He wants a 6 month separation I dont. I think if we are going to make it work we should do it together but he doesnt'. So we are selling the house and both moving to two different apartments me with our girls him alone and he thinks I am going to sit around for 6 months while he decides what he wants. Not going to happen so I am going to do the separation just so I look a lot better in court when I file for divorce. I know how bad you are hurtuing but both of you have to decide to make it work if you cant' do that then you have to face the other options. I have been married for 7 years and with him since I was 19, I am 32 now.
2006-10-04 13:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anjanette A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you ask this in singles and dating and not marriage and divorce?
if you've lost the flame in your relationship with your hubby, but still want to stay married because of kids or financial reasons, I don't see why you couldn't start seeing other guys, but it would be a good idea to talk to your husband about the situation before doing anything like that.
2006-10-04 13:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your hubby where he feels your marriage is going. Maybe you just need to spice things up some. Start dating again. I just complained to my fiance recently that we act like an old married couple and I wanted to date again. So we have been going out to dinner alone (no kids) and Dave & Busters and shoot pool even a few movies. Its been fun and I feel like we have our old relationship back. Relationships take work and will become stagnant if you let them.
2006-10-04 13:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk with your husband and tell him how you feel, he is not a mind reader. Then let the two of you come up with something different to do maybe have a date night, or have a special weekend away, try new stuff in bed, be creative.
2006-10-04 13:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...talk maybe? The key to a good relationship is communication. If it's falling apart, try talking or shake things up a bit. Do something different for once.
2006-10-04 13:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by clarnely_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a long vacation to some where together and do thing away from the old pattern.
China is nice
2006-10-04 13:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like your between a rock and a hard spot, but have you discussed with him what your feeling that would be my first thing, is the sex still there.... i take it you luv sex given your name lol.... maybe try spicing that up.... write back if you want 8 hard inches here lol ....tightlinefishing22@yahoo.com
2006-10-04 13:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there,go back 2 datin first then take things slowly,and dont b brother and sister and start havin fun again worked for me
2006-10-04 13:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do more things together, go out to dinner, movie...date like back in the day.
2006-10-04 13:38:02 · answer #11 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋