my girlfriend is a virgin (19 years old), i'm not (22 years old).
we've been together 5 months. when i tried to talk about sex she became very nervous and scared (couldn't hold her cigarette with fingers). i just didn't know what to say after that. we really love each other. i don't want me to look like a fool who has been with her just for sex. what should i do? what should i say to her to make her feel better about that? (we've done the foreplay like a million times...)
2006-10-04 06:27:51 · 25 answers · asked by trile_le3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reassure her that you are willing to wait until she is ready. Dont rush her into it because you could be the blame for things if she does something and regrets it. It could be a scary thing for her, because she doesn't know what to expect and since you guys have only been together 5 mths she's probably afraid that, maybe that's all your with her for is the sex. If you really care about her then you should be willing to wait until she's good and ready.
2006-10-04 06:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the issue. Relax, take her to romantic places, foreplay doesn't always end with sex, as you've found out. You're going to have to invest some time and effort on this girl. There are a lot of things I would just be guessing at, so I'm guessing your girl has either had a bad experience with someone else, or is just not ready. Is her religion a problem? Her family dysfunctional? See, We don't know enough to make a judgment on this. If you really care about this girl, make the effort to find out what the problem is. If you don't care enough to make that effort, there are plenty of 19 year old hotties ready to go.
2006-10-04 13:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her respect and let her set the pace for what will or will not happen. She gets a first time once, and it's her decision. Maybe she decided to wait until she's married. Maybe she wants to see how committed you are to her. 5 months isn't long at all, even though today's society has sex at a drop of a hot. If you really like this girl, wait for her to get to the same place you are. If you're just wanting a girlfriend for benefits and sex, then you really need to walk away from her. That way there's no harm, no foul. Good luck to you.
2006-10-04 13:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't ready. 5 months is not very long at all.
Talk to her. Tell her that you will respect whatever decision she makes. Don't keep bringing it up, you will only cause more . She will feel pressured and that isn't good. She'll end up resenting you.
If things progress during one of your "foreplay"sessions , then fine. But if not, just let it go for now.
2006-10-04 13:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably scared that it would hurt. Some girls are nervous about sex because the first time hurts. She's probably scared that you'll rip her apart. Just assure her that it'll all be over in two minutes. Yes that's all u need. A virgin girl doesn't want that hour man who'll make it hurt that long. just tell her you'll stop when she says stop.
2006-10-04 13:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude take it slow and educate her on what you want and find out what she wants. that's the only way you will ever find out if she wants to wait till she is married or just isn't ready to have sex. Be patient good things come to those who wait corny line but its so true.
good luck
2006-10-04 13:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by midnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her and don't fool around with her. She's been holding herself for the right man
2006-10-04 13:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by eternalvoid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until she is ready dont rush her just simply tell her you are ready for a bigger commitment and to let you know when she is ready. dont pressure her or she will run the other direction. shell also feel guilty cause she isnt. its a pure pressure
2006-10-04 13:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait til she's ready and if you know she is, then put her in the mood to where she may want to do it. try oral sex than gradually move to the physical stuff. you gotta make her feel safe within that atmosphere. ask her what she wants. she may want to wait til your married.
2006-10-04 13:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!! She's old enough and "mature" enough to make a decision that will kill her (smoking), but not old enough or mature enough to have sex. Dude, this girl has all the signs of trouble. Get rid of her.
2006-10-04 13:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋