We were dating a year and a half when poof he decides to let go, break up. He gave up, he never let me in, always pushed me away. He did a lot of things to me that hurt, but I never called him on it. Why am I still thinking about him after all the **** he put me through? I was crying every night to sleep for months.
2006-10-04 06:24:28 · 14 answers · asked by Crazy Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One day at a time girl. It takes about as long as you were with someone to get over them. You get up, take your shower, do any crying in there...come out, put on your makeup, look nice, and live your life minding your business. Who knows where you'll go or who you'll meet. At night, when you feel like crying, do it. Get it out. Tell yourself it's okay, and pray for peace and good dreams. It will just take time, lots and lots of time. I'm sorry for your loss, but maybe it ws the best thing that ever happened to you. You learned something-like maybe you should have ditched him way before this. The next time when a man starts playing with your mind, recognize game and get the hell out before it gets too far along.
2006-10-04 06:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As quickly as you can, start making a list of what you want in a man. Write down the things you failed to see before and what you will do differently. When you remember him, just remember all the pain you had to endure when you where with him. Make a pact with yourself to cry tomorrow, not today. Today, put some makeup on and fix your hair. Go out and have some fun. Stay busy and tell yourself you deserve better. There are better days ahead , so keep your chin up! If you want a good website that does a free profile and charges a small fee to give you good matches, eharmony.com is a wonderful place for singles to be matched up! Like I said, better days ahead so ditch all of the garbage and make up your mind to find a REAL man who will treat you like you deserve to be treated!
2006-10-04 18:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm in the same boat right now. I've felt the same way. I have every class with my ex and we are in college.
It's so hard not to think about someone. What I suggest you do is keep your energy on something you have to do. Are you in school? Try to pay attention to the important things in your life right now that you need. Good things come to those who wait... Dont go and jump into another relationship. I've tried that, it does help some but if your not sure what you want do do it. I try to right poetry or paint how I feel. You have these emotions built up inside that you need to release in order to feel better.
Take some time out for your self, when he comes into mind just try to ask GOD to help you get over hime. I dont know if you see him often but if you do ignore him trust me he will be thinking about you to. Your not the only person is your shoes so dont feel alone. As time goes on things will get better, this is what I tell my self and some how I'm starting to believe it.
2006-10-04 13:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by nicoleari 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie love hurts, you obviously fell hard for this guy who even though treated you like crap and put you through everything under the sun. Honestly it is going to hurt for a while, but please understand that you need to keep in mind that he probably wasnt ready for a serious relationship and that you're better off without him. He was pushing you away and wasnt interested in trying to work things out with you. He didnt care that he was hurting you all the while and he finally gave up on you. So you need to move on and try your best to forget about this jerk. You deserve so much more for yourself.
2006-10-04 13:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing. My ex boyfriend was really good to me but he decided to let go and experience new things. I work with a ton of gorgeous guys but I can't seem to shake my ex. You said your man did a lot to hurt you and if that is the case he didn't deserve you. Only time can heal a broken heart and shots of tequila...
2006-10-04 13:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by lcplyr7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have broke up on his terms but since you didnt do anything wrong you feel like you were at fault. With your feelings you blame yourself and you shouldnt. He never let you in to how he feels so it wasnt a true relationship. It may have been on your part, but not on his. He couldnt let you in, which made him a not so good friend to you. Can you honestly say that you would want that for yourself now? Someone who will not communicate with you and make demands on you as a person that you cant promise to fullfill? You are a person too and you have feelings that you need to have someone listen to. When in a relationship you have to work 50/50. Sounds to me as if he was 0/100.
It hurts alot to put in all that time and effort on someone that couldnt offer you the same respect, but at least now you will see how great of a person you are for even putting up with someone like him. Dont kick yourself for all the pain he caused you. Take everyday for yourself now that you dont have him to push you down. You wil find someone that will care for you as much as you care for them. Goodluck!!! :)
2006-10-04 13:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rejection will do that do you every time. it's all psychological. i hate to say this but you need to get into someone else to forget him. a rebound person so to speak. go to the club or someplace to meet people and it will keep your mind off of him. if you are real shy try myspace, blackplanet, mixedrace, or migente (all .com) you'll meet a lot of cool people on those sites to keep you occupied.
2006-10-04 13:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by lynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i thihk that you should talk to him for once and for all have closure wiht him and have a nice long talk. dont argue. dont cry. nohting like that. just tell him how you felt from the beggining and tell him how you feel up to now. take turns talking and dont let him inturrupt. just tlak to him and come to a conclusion.
2006-10-04 13:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Blacky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing you can do is get with other guys.ya you had strong feelings for him, but if you force yourself to hand around other guys, you will find yourself developing feelings for some of them, and that will help you get over your bf. they're called rebound relationships.
2006-10-04 13:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone isnt over their ex. in any case keep yourself occupied and hang with friendsjust tell them to not mention your ex
2006-10-04 13:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋