The "spanking your child" issue?

Question

Have you ever noticed that since it has become such an "abuse" to spank you child, all these boot camps for troubled teens have been popping up? Coincidence?

Answer 1

Spanking is not an issue here - we do it!

Boot camps my eye. Best parenting are good questions. Who, what, where, when and why. If we started to ask those at two years of age until 20, we wouldn't need boot camps.

Answer 2

There is no such thing as a bad child and i know for sure that any type of abuse such as spanking does not work most of the time, i think my parents used it as a last resort... talking and explaining things to children works but if it comes to happen more than twice then i think spanking would be the answer... most of the kids that end up in these boot camps are troubled kids that experienced something traumatic like a divorce or something else or there is no parent authority in their home... i know of this because i worked for a housing authority here in los angeles.

Answer 3

No, but I believe in spanking whole heartedly,although there is a line between spanking and child abuse. I even think belts are appropriate for spanking as long as it's only used on the rear and only so many swats are given with it.Children need whippings in order to be kept in line. Spankings should begin early on and if your child straightens up they will learn fast of the type of behavior to stay away from to prevent future whippings. So everyone wins. The child behaves and the parents don't have to spank.

Answer 4

There are several ways to punish your child without spanking! Just take away privileges like TV, Internet, hobbies,... With younger children you can give them a time-out.
The boot camps for troubled teens aren't full because they don't get spanked any more, it's because the parents don't punish them any more! Parents are to busy with being the 'friend' of their kids instead of the parents. They work a lot and don't see a lot of their children so they feel guilty towards their children and just want them to have a good time which means that the kids can do whatever they please!

You don't have to spank to make your point! Just louder your voice and punish properly.

Answer 5

I agree. The local government and schools have taken over the responsibilities of our parenting rights. They tell the children to report their parents for abuse, and unfortunately, spanking is considered abuse. My Dad spanked our butts when we misbehaved and taught us at home, how to be responsible people at school and in society. I spanked my children years ago, they were also loved and cared for, It wasn't expected for us as parents to put the full burden of raising our children onto the teachers.
This is a new time. There is a lot more violence and children abused, there need to be laws to protect the children. It's a vicious circle of life. What a web we've weaved.

Answer 6

Let's be totally honest. I don't go for abuse, a smack now and again when deserved is a wake up call, anything else let's not go there.
But...remember when we were kids and just a look could freeze us in our tracks. Why? 'Cause when your parents said I'll deal with you when we get home you knew you better get some good sitting time in 'cause it was going to be severely limited shortly.
Time outs work for some kids, I used them, a lot. I think I spanked my eldest daughter once. One slap on the behind. We were crossing the street and she tried to pull away from me. I got some pretty mean stares, but she never did it again.
I'm all for going easy on kids, but sometimes it's good for them to have the fear put into them. They have to know you mean it and sitting for 10 minutes on the freezer, she jumped off everything else, doesn't always cut it.

Answer 7

You realize that the school are having a harder time with kids also. Parents don't know how to handle their kids no more scared that they might go to jail. And the school can't do nothing in fear that they might be sued. Children know the laws but yet can read a book because some one else child is disrupting class . When you tell them you are going to call their parents, the first thing out their mouth is," I don't care". The parents comes up to talk to you and they are quick to say," I don't know what to do". I say cuttthatass, and deal with the law later! Parents are scared of their kids because of the laws now.But the laws won't protect them when they are dead or out in the street. We as in adults need to get our respect back and stop letting the man(law) tell us how to live when they are not in our house to see what we are going through to raise well rounded children. Parents need to put fear back in their children hearts like the parents did in the past.
Boot camps are nothing but mini jails!

Answer 8

Kids need discipline. I am sure there is a connection of boot camps for teens and not spanking them. When I went to school the principal had this big paddle and he knew how to use it and you never heard of these camps, you heard of maybe a military school. That is what I use to threaten mine with.

Answer 9

"He who spares the rod, does not love his child." We spank our kids when they are small , 2-8, as often as necessary. We were spanked when we were small, and we are not child abusers, nor were our parents. I think not spanking is fine, as long as you can find a way to get rid of the negative behavior. Not many people do though, and when I'm in public, I think, "What is wrong with you? Spank his butt!" I think it's not the spanking, it's the number of people who let the kid rule the roost, period.

Answer 10

Children need firm, kind, consistent parenting with clear bounderies and consequences. This should not include hitting or spanking. When parents resort to hitting, they are admitting that they are out of control with the situation. Try some good parenting books, including "How to Talk so they will Listen and How to Listen so they Will Talk"