My sis has been a tad overweight since she was teenager. Year after she has been eating her way to obesity: now she is 22 and over 200 pounds. She gets very angry when either my mom or me hint that she should eat smaller portions, cut junk food.
Besides health risks her weight poses, I know she is not happy with her looks - she gets upset when she shops for clothes; she does not have many friends and has never had a boyfriend. But she has never made even a smallest attempt to diet or exercise.
What can I do to help her?
2006-10-04 06:08:25 · 8 answers · asked by Kaytee 5 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Avoid the negative aproaches you and your mom have been attempting.
as an over wight person I know how it hurts me and my self concience eats me into depression.
Now if I had a sister, and she was concerned with my weight.
the one thing that would help me is if she asked me to go to the gym, and I went with her- letting her push me little to go, and It would make for a fun outting- maybe even a healthy meal together would encourage me more than some one nagging on me.
ever ask her out to lunch- maybe to a new place that caters to LOW fat menus or heck just grab a bite at subway-
lead her to a healthy life style- dont push her
2006-10-04 06:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by oregonmadisons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set an example for her. Losing weight has to be a lifestyle change and to be healthy it needs to take a while. Instead of suggesting that she diet, start showing her some alternatives that she might like instead of heavy junk food. What I have done since I recently moved into my own place, is simply not keep those items around. If I want cookies, then I will have a cookie...but not keep them on hand all the time. Also, if she has a rough week, don't rub it in her face...encourage her to keep working toward her goal. Have her set small goals...maybe just fitting back into a favorite pair of jeans. Either way, don't pressure her...it is her life.
2006-10-04 07:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ms_sugakane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as an overweight person, i can tell you that badgering her will not help at all. if she brings up the subject, offer all the support you can. you can give her tips and ideas if she is looking for help. however, she will likely tune you out if you offer unsolicited advice.
changing eating habits is very difficult. once you are obese, your body does not want to give it up again. most obese people are plagued by cravings due to blood sugar fluctations. poor quality sleep makes it difficult to summon the energy to exercise.
these are not excuses, but the everyday reality that obese people deal with. the best thing you can do is invite her to dine with you occasionally and serve appropriate portions of healthy food. invite her to participate in fun activities that won't seem like exercise. the best approach is light-handed.
keep in mind that some women use weight as a protective barrier, an excuse to avoid intimate relationships. she might benefit from therapy as well.
2006-10-04 06:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by trinity729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute you mention her weight, you turn on her defensive mode. Invite her to work out with you...doing fun stuff....not at a gym. Ask her if she would like to go to do physical things that you would both enjoy. When you cook for family gatherings, use healthy recipes and offer fruits for dessert. MOST of all, you cannot do anything to help her IF she has not yet decided that she wants to be healthier. You can tell her that you love her and want to be there to help her to be the healthiest person that she can be. Offer your love...not a diet to her. You may have to accept the fact that she is a bigger person and has no desire to change....for you or boyfriends or society. You need to let her know that you do love her for who she is.
2006-10-04 06:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a personal trainer, I know you have to shame her into doing it. Nobody is going be become healthy by being coddled to the gym. You have to be firm with her and tell her that you love her too much to watch her commit a slow suicide by stuffing her pie hole. You need to be like Dr. Phil and tell her to get real. Being nice never helped anybody lose weight.
Tell her reward comes after, when she looks great in the mirror.
One of the mechanisms for survival in man is to feel poorly about being unhealthy, as motivation to get in shape. Don't make it harder by buying her a shirt that says FAT is PHAT.
2006-10-04 06:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are able to inspire her by potential of doing cardio together with her and motivating her for 5 days a week for a million hour..and pondering the nutrition, you're able to do it as a project for her if she eats healthful nutrition you supplies you her funds or a recent and if she eats undesirable nutrition you are able to punish her as you prefer additionally keep away from having any junk nutrition on your place you're able to do the nutrition for her .additionally see who's her functionality sort in life ,the guy she rather likes,and enable that individual convince her to drop some pounds .
2016-10-15 12:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by sachiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weight loss is more supported by regular and scheduled life...
eat a lot of jelly ? drink a lot of water.... slight warm will help...
meet up with guys....
2006-10-04 06:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Henry W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant help her until she wants to help herself!
2006-10-04 06:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by H0ttness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋