My son is 10 months old. My best friend past away suddenly..and the wake is tonight? I just found out yesterday about the arrangements. Is it uncommon for people to take small childern with them? I'm a single parent so its not like he could just stay with his dad.
2006-10-04 05:59:11 · 14 answers · asked by amberchantelnicolecrone 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
In my opinion, your son won't remember it. It isn't uncommon. I had a time where I had to take my 2 youngest children with me and they were 19 months and 2 weeks old. Now they are 8 & 9 and I don't like to take them now but at that young age they don't remember.
2006-10-04 06:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by asouthwell28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon to take children to a wake in many cultures. You may want to choose a time when your son is well rested, have something that your son can play with and have an escape plan if he begins to fuss. He won't remember the wake. He may tune in to the emotions you feel and it is important to reassure him that you are okay but sad. Children, even young children are very aware of the emotions of others and they will react as well.
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Even if you can only stay at the wake for a short time, I would say go.
2006-10-04 06:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by sev1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon. If you have tried to find a suitable baby sitter but didn't get one, you have no choice but to bring your baby. However, be sensible. Don't stay to long or too late as it might disrupt your baby's rest. They will understand if don't stay very long, just enough to give your respects. Try to go early or at a time that is best for your child like after a meal/snack or a nap so he won't be grumpy.
2006-10-04 07:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by pride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it bothering them. They will not even realize what it is nor remember it. If your infant is whiny and cries a lot you may want to get a sitter out of respect of everyone there. If you can not get a sitter but really need to be there then just do not stay any longer than you have to.
2006-10-04 06:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Carolee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my son to a funeral at 8 or 9 months and missed most of it because he didn't want to sit in the room.
He did do good at the wake, but that was because people where coming up and talking to him.
2006-10-04 06:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion Death is a fact of life and getting your son aware of it may help him make a wise decision to seek the Lord.After all nothing but death is certain and it could make him eternally grateful.Which is the most intelligent thing anybody with a still functional brain could ever do for themselves and their families. Take Care and May God Bless You.
2006-10-04 06:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandmother died when my oldest son was a year old. I took him and during the funeral he did act like any toddler he walked about saying hi to strangers in the pues. He even walked up with me to the casket and said bye to his ga ma. His innocents brought a peace to the room. He brought life to a situation normally focused on death. I think my grandmother was smiling down as we were all smiling at my son. Say good bye to your friend the way you choose and don't worry about anything else.
2006-10-04 08:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by rick and lydia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take you son. The worst that can happen is that you would have to leave. I think you should also because you might feel guilty if you don't go. Especially if it is your best friend. Your best friend would want you to be there.
2006-10-04 06:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have parents or friends, or a neighbor.
I don't think it's a good idea to take a child to a wake. People are grieving, i don't think they want to hear a baby crying.
2006-10-04 06:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by jevic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at that age they really dont know... just dont bring him or her to the casket....
I had to take my infant son to about 3 wakes/funerals his first year of life.
Hey if u got no one to watch him/her then you cant blow your friends family off because of it...
just bring every thing youll need to keep baby occupied and quiet.
GL..and sorry about your lose
2006-10-04 06:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋