How do I make my child stop whinning?

Question

My one and half year old whines whenever she wants me to get her something, even if it is something that she could easily get herself. A lot of the things she wants, she knows how to say so I don't know why she doesn't use words. She just points and whines (her whine sounds similar to a machine gun). I can't take much more. How do I get her to stop?

Answer 1

Oh I feel for you too. My 18-month-old does that too. One thing to try would be to encourage her to say the word for what she wants. If she says it, give her a ton of praise. Hopefully this will encourage her to want to please you by using her words when she wants something rather than whining.

Of course, more often than not she'll just continue whining. I wouldn't make it a power struggle. If she is whining and you know she wants a banana, first encourage her to say banana. If she says it, great- lay on the praise. If not, say, "banana please." Then give it to her. Even if she didn't say the word, you are modeling the behavior that you're looking for.

This is starting to work for my little boy and he thinks it's funny when I give him lots of praise. It's also helping him to say more words. Anyway, good luck- I know how frustrating it is!!

Answer 2

Sounds like you need a break for starters. Do your best to get out of the house and take a walk or do something fun. Better mood creates more patience which is nessecary to teach a child that young.
1) Explain to her that if she wants something then she has to stop whining and say it out right. (sometimes it helps to demonstrate whining. This is whining____.) Otherwise you will ignore her. Explain to her that there is no need for it and it won't be tolerated.
2) When she is whining make her say what she wants or take a nap. Tell her that whining means she is tired and tells you that she needs a nap. Occasionally this is actually the reason. People in general become very moody when they are tired. Give this method at least 2-4 weeks.
4) If she keeps doing it try time-out.
Which ever method you choose, be consistant.
If you don't enforce what you say she will continue to do it because she gets away with it. You may have to hear her whine for a little while, while you are teaching her but it's better than a long while if you don't.
To help block out the noise of it when she's in her bed or in timeout, try headphones or closing the door. She is bound to throw a temper tantrum but be strong and stand your ground. Giving in will only make the process harder and longer.
Good luck

Answer 3

My 3 1/2 year old still does the same thing. I tell her if she wants something to use her words and if she doesn't to go to her room. If you daughter knows how to respond to questions, then make her reply to you before you give her something. If she won't or keeps whining, I would make her sit in a time out or something.

Answer 4

My suggestion is to ignore her when she whines. I used to have the king whiner in my house (he's now 6) - it drove me nuts. When he was old enough, I started sending him to his room the second he started whining. That really seemed to work - his whining wasn't getting my attention like he wanted. If at all possible, I would explain that I will not talk to you until you stop whining and then walk away (or turn your back). Do you use "timeouts" at all? Anyway, good luck!

Answer 5

Quite simply consistency is the key. Every time she whines tell her to use words and stop whining. If she continues whining, leave the room.

I have had 2 whiners. I in still in it a little bit. It is a stage they have to work through. If you don't tell them what they should do they will stay in that stage.

I wouldn't do sign language. I think it hinders verbal development. She will learn, give her time and consistency.

Answer 6

Ignore the living Sh8t outta her and let me explain what I mean b/c I have a 13 month old.Dont take that as being mean but I feel your frustration. Im sure like you said she's smart enough to ask 4 what she wants so dont respond to her testing your patients b/c thats all it is and you know it thats why it gets on your nerves so much.Ignore her whinning come to eye level with her and look her in the eyes and nicely tell her to ask mommy for what she wants or it wont be given to her.It wont stop completely but she may not do it as much.

Answer 7

I ignored my child's whining and now he is 10 and still does it but I'm just happy he is here to do so. I lost my 2nd child as a newborn and never got to hear what her whine would have sounded like.

Answer 8

My DD is also 18 months. When she whines, grunts, or otherwise using no verbal cues (besides sign lanuguage) we always tell her to use her words. If she doesn't we say I don't know what you mean, use your words. It usually works everytime.

Even though an 18 month old is pretty verbal, have you ever thought about teaching her sign language? Sometimes my 18 month old just doesn't feel like talking so she will use a sign instead.

Answer 9

Make sure to tell her you won't get it unless she tells you what she wants. Say objects around the item she wants, but don't say the item's name for her. Make her say the name. Also, punish her if she continues whining. Warn her if she does not stop or tell you what she wants, that she will need to go sit in a chair or a designated spot for "time out" but DO NOT call it a time out. It becoems ineffective and will wear easily. If she continues to do this, just keep reminding her to say what she wants.

Answer 10

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