ok here's the thng my ex and i broke up 4 years ago..but we started chating again...so he's telling me he wanted to see me, which i was kool with but here's where things get tricky! he keeps on asking me if i see you can i kiss you caus ei know i would want to? i'm like it all depends on the mood and if we still have the spark...he's like what if i want to do more sexualy? i'm like like what? he goes hugging holding hands and grabbing my ***! i'm like you are so full of **** that's not sexual and you're tunring me off from seeing you...thne his tune changes that he is a good man and blah blah blah the thing is i still have some feelings for you i'm not still in love with you but i still have a thing! he asked me for my number and he said he will call me...that was 2 weeks ago! any suggestions about my situation? i till have feelings for him, even tho it was a long time ago, our relationhip back then was so great that i cant beleive he turned into a jerk. just need objective opinions!
2006-10-04 05:58:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up cause i had to move
2006-10-04 06:02:25 · update #1
i dont beleive in **** buddies
2006-10-04 06:02:56 · update #2
Well believe they can change (from back then) and become total jerks!!! Thinking like we do we tend to see them as they once were- not as they are now-we can't go back to yesterday-so we have to let go and move on or there will be no moving on! Tell him to keep his hands to himself that you are not his plaything.
2006-10-04 06:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, I believe that its what he wants. A boy/guy/man would NEVER come out with "sexual" concerns unless if that is all he is after. Although you two had some great times in the past, just remember exactly how you felt when things got bad. Even if you had moved, there was a reason why you had been split apart.
Are these feelings that you have just because you had lose ends? You never recieved a clean break? Alot of times that is the only reason why people go back to their ex's. Especially if there was alot of time spent away from that person. If he was truly inlove he would have called you the same day. I dont want to tell you that its not right, but all I can say is go with your "gut" feeling. If you know that its not right then dont take it any further. If you want to test the waters, then you should. Just be careful! Hope you are feeling better about your situation. Goodluck!!! :)
2006-10-04 06:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you cared very deeply for this guy and he turned into a jerk so there was a reason why you guys broke up and didnt work out. Don't subject yourself to that type of mistreatment again. Because you still have some feelings for him you might get caught up again with him if you meet up with him and end up getting hurt once again. Don't do anything foolish. I'm not saying that it's not ok to meet up and chill or hang out but if you do don't take it any further than that. If he truly still has feelings for you make him prove that he's willing to wait and show you that he's not lying or just trying to have sex with you. Take your time and dont rush into things.
2006-10-04 06:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. But after seeing him a few times, he turned out to be the same man I dumped years ago. So unless he really has done some soul searching and life changes. My bet would be he hasn't changed and that time will show that. Time you will never get back again. It's nice to relive the good times you too shared and I think that is what you are remembering. But take it from someone who wasted there times odds are against him changing. Look elsewhere.
2006-10-04 06:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by dobsonrhonda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not carry her to blame for what surpassed off with you ex bf. supply her the earnings of the doubt until eventually she gives you reason to not have confidence her. I mean i would not be telling each and everything and something yet so some distance as you are able to tell she went in the process an identical element and you adult men would desire to in all likelihood advance an rather great friendship because of the fact of it. Your ex is the asshole and you need to not blame her for what surpassed off. Like I suggested, until eventually she gives you a reason to be dissatisfied or mad at her... be friends!
2016-10-15 12:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by sachiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex is an ex for a reason. Honestly, he sounds childish. He's asking those questions because he already knows what he wants to do and wants to see if you're on the same page. If you're not interested in having sex with him, keep your distance. Tell him when he's ready to be friends, then give you a call. Otherwise, have a nice life.
2006-10-04 06:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Brianna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go and see how he is person. When you call him tell that it will be like a friend thing, no kissing, no touching, just talking. he could of been just horny at the time and acting stupid, guys can kinda be that way. Plus, a old spark might start back up again.
2006-10-04 06:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl Please, Stop buggin- NO, If you like him go for it but trust me he just wants to use you and lose you. Its not gonna be a long term thing. besides if he was still into you he'd have called by now, he just wants a little KittyKat. If youre ok with that then go for it. but just remember a quickie is just that, get up put your pants on and leave right away, and no boo hoo hooing- flip the script and he'll be beggin for more.
Thats how i got my husband!!
:)
Good luck girl.
2006-10-04 06:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confusing, is he requesting to kiss u when he sees you? I don't know if I feel comfortable with a guy who keeps asking for love, before the moment occurs. Go with your gut instinct! If your saying to yourself "I'm like what?"--then that's the wrong guy.
2006-10-04 06:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Past is the past, leave it there. You ended it for a reason, keep reminding yourself that. He'll only change temporarily before he goes back to his old ways! Good luck =)
2006-10-04 06:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋