My gf has been usually very possesive, but lately she has been kinda indifferent. I was getting bored of that, so I planned not to visit her yesterday (I have a demanding job so i can only see her on weekends and tuesdays)
She called me to ask if i was going to visit her. She has been complaining that I go out too late and I stay only a couple of hours, so i said, that i wouldnt see her.
My job ended earlier so i called her but her sister told me she had gone to the mall, so i decided to go home. She called me like 30 minutes after that, asking if i would go, so i did. I had dinner there but after that she said that she had to visit her cousin cause she's really sick.
I asked whys is that if she was planning to visit her, later she complains that we see just a couple of hours
I went home, and in the phone that night, she says that she needs some space!!! She complains that we dont see enough and now she says that she needs some space...Whats her problem.?? Hell, ILL GIVE HER SPACE!
2006-10-04 05:57:58 · 18 answers · asked by Mr. E 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well sweetie it could be one of two things...you see what men don't know about us women is that we are crave all of your attention, as selfish as that may sound....she could have just said she needed space to test you to see if you really cared. Meaning if you would have said fine have all the space you want then you dont care. If you said why do you want space for I think things were going great with us? She could possibly be doing it because she feels neglected, maybe she thinks your not interested in spending time with her so she tells you she needs space to see your reaction. Sometimes we say and do stupid things just to see how someone will react. If you really care for her then ask her why she needs space...explain to her that you are a busy man and are just busy with work, that you do want to spend every minute that you can with her but its just not possible...because you're working trying to save up for your future together....On the other hand she could just really need space to think about what it is she truly wants out of your relationship, like if she's ready to deal with having a boyfriend who can't devote the time she wants him to have in the relationship. Anyhow talk to her...dont just give up!
2006-10-04 06:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when people ask for space in their relationships, it could be that you spend too much time together and need a break or in your case, she seems confused. Being in a similar situation before, your GF may need some time to re-evaluate your relationship. She may be going through personal issues and may feel stressed out. Perhaps she doesn't know how to express this and just needs some time to herself. It is confusing when she says that you only see eachother for a few hours and now wants space. Give her space, if you don't, you may end up pushing her away and/or making a hasty decision without thinking about it rationally.
2006-10-04 13:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's cheating on you, and she's making up things just to see you, or she might be feeling lonely and stressed because of your tight job schedule.. I figure this go out and have fun don't sit around and wait for her do your thing to and who knows by the time she calls back or she's done having her space you might meet a person u really connect with... Don't stress over her if she really loves she'll come back to you if not forget her and have fun
2006-10-04 13:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear that quite a bit, and most times a girl says than when she is somewhat confused as to where the relationship is going. By the same token, she just might need some time (space) to sort things out for herself. Just be patient with her - send her a card a flowers and let her know you miss her! GOOD LUCK
2006-10-04 13:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, maybe you should take a break and see how your feelings go from there. Sometimes space makes you realize how much you really someone or just the opposite.
2006-10-04 12:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When sha says I need some space shes saying that she wishes you would be there more for her and she needs someone who will be there for her. Space is just a nice way to say Im tired of you and I dont want to see you anymore.
2006-10-04 13:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm that is kinda strange....how bout you try talking out how you feel to her ask her questions about how she is feeling about the relationship. Maybe she is going through a tough time now. and if you do talk it out with her make sure your sweet and kind and understanding. try to keep the discussion mature. and if she wants space give it to her.
2006-10-04 13:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ambegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to think over the relationship. By her not seeing you enough it is giving her doubts as to whether she wants to continue the relationship or not.
2006-10-04 13:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is frustrated with the relationship, just as you are. She is considering her options and moving on. Time to start looking for someone else.
2006-10-04 12:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a lot of space. it sounds like she might be seeing someone else, and just doesn't know how to break it to you. or maybe she is trying to figure out which one she wants
2006-10-04 13:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋