I gave birth to my dead baby a month ago on Monday. I am a christain, but haven't been living the christain live that I should of been living. Since I lost my baby my life has changed so much. Even though I can barly go from day to day I keep one thing in the back of my mind, that the day that I die I will go to heaven and see my baby again. I have learned so much about God in the past month than I have my whole entire life. I have changed my life around because of my miscarriage. I think God had a reason for it, even if it did hurt me so much, I still love God and I wouldn't want my baby with anyone else, specialy God, the person I trust the most.
2006-10-04 05:48:26 · 21 answers · asked by Ashtin W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My baby was stillborn almost three months ago and it was because of an infection. I've always believed that nature is completely spontaneous, we can not change it. And it was because of nature that my baby got an infection. Nothing could have happened to change that. But I believe that God took him in his arms to heaven in order to spare him from a difficult life. He would not have been able to live up to his fullest potential so he was granted eternal life. Maybe God thought that was what was best for your baby too. You just have to have faith that things will work their way through. Your baby will always be with you in your heart and you can always talk to him/her whenever you feel the need. It might help to have a small ceremony in order to honor your baby. Last Sunday, my husband and I wrote message on two blue balloons, tied them together, and watched them float off to heaven. It made me feel much better, like I could let him know that he has parents on Earth who love him very much. You just have to let yourself grieve and go through that long process so you can heal as best you can. Something I read that was also very helpful "We did not try to make a baby and failed, we tried to make a baby but instead, made an angel"
2006-10-04 06:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Chi1linVi1lain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going thru! I've had 2 miscarriages in the last 3 months and one was a D & C!! Most miscarriages take place because of problems with the chromosomes coming together! I really do believe that God takes babies away to keep them from suffering!! God giveth and God taketh away!! You're doing the right thing by keeping Him first and continuing to trust in Him!! You'll have a healthy baby real soon and just look at it as God took your baby because he needed another angel to watch over you and your family!! He has a plan for you and it may not have been time for you to have a baby and therefore, things went wrong, but stay positive and know that in due time, you'll be a mother and everything God does is for our own good because He doesn't make any mistakes!!! Sorry for your loss, but everything will be alright!!!
2006-10-04 07:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have a miscarriage or still birth?
I am very sorry for your loss!
Most miscarriages that happen in early pregnancies are due to unseen defects with the baby. Its natures way of doing things.
It seems to me that your question is really asking is God punishing you? No, you are not being punished by God for not living a christian life. Sometimes bad things just happen, and there isn't a reason for it.
What kind of God would He be if He said 'you aren't living the life that I want you to live so I am taking away your baby as punishment', That certainly isn't the God that I've learned about.
Good Luck.
2006-10-04 05:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I don't believe in using religion as a crutch. You will pay dearly for buying the "feel good, there's a reason for everything" part. Pain and tragedy is part of Natural Law, created by God. God doesn't play a direct role in "punishing" or "rewarding" us. On God's scale, that would be too small. For God to grant you life's greatest reward just to take it back, is the action of an abusive Father. He would "devastate" you back into a relationship with him? Children cling to their abusers, it's true. God is not petty. Why would He take the best for himself? I can't believe in that description of God. It's too simplified and Man-serving. That teaching is religious abuse and is only meant to control the money sources for the church. Don't submit to that. You should only look around you to see this truth. Good people often suffer, and bad people often live the good life. Life is not fair, but being happy is a choice: It's all in one's perspective and reaction.
There is not a definable "reason" for every tragedy. Every tragedy is not related specifically to an action. I believe that suffering, in general, makes us empathetic to others. And without pain, we could not experience contrasting "joy." Every day, we are met with opportunity to help and to make a difference, albeit sometimes small. If we are buried in shame and self-doubt, we will miss these opportunities.
Living the "Christian life" does not include shaming, even of one's self.
I am very sorry for your loss. There is no greater pain than that of losing a child.
2006-10-04 06:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I dont think there was a reason it just happened, bad things happen and we are left to deal with them or blame god I am glad you changed your life to something you see as being a better person I am sorry for your loss and wish you luck in the future
2006-10-04 06:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. In my opinion, you are absolutely right. God had a reason. He will never put you through something that he doesn't feel you can't handle. Keep the faith and move forward. God does have a reason for everything. We may not understand at the time but later down the road it may become obvious. There may have been problems in the future for the child that God knew you wouldn't be able to handle. I am praying for you.
2006-10-04 06:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by asouthwell28 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You Know I'm going throw the same thing, on Sept. 10Th I had a stillbirth. And I believe sometimes that god has his reasons But then I don't know I already have a few kids that were born just fine, I wont to know what's the difference with this one.
2006-10-04 06:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by maribel_crrll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not punishing you with the loss of your baby.
Their is always a perfect plan.
The Lord has burdended me terribly for the last year then revealed His perfect plan for my life and his perfect Love for me, with burdens come enormous blessings.
Email me at jenswack2006@yahoo.com if you need help
Dont stop talking to God, trust His plan for you and His love for you and your baby.
YOU WILL see your child in Heaven. He is not gone from your life now and never will be.
Ask God to use you, use your life and your pain to influence others and provide comfort to others.
For me their is NO greater joy than when God uses me in His plan.
I am active in the Pro Life movement, and it is NOT an easy road, but, this is the path God chose for me and I accept it.
Maybe God has something in store for you that you never saw coming.
Blessings to you
2006-10-04 07:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
@maroug iv, vampires are genuine, i understand this lady in france shes is a suitable vamp and she or he bites :D She might in all likelihood bypass out seeing any blood nonetheless lol. As for not believing in god, there is in simple terms no reason to have self assurance in god. i don't hate human beings, so refuse to stick to any that type others otherwise. Which then ends up wherein faith would desire to be good, the top is for sure none of all of them of us understand guy created gods and god, we don't stay in the ineffective of night a while, we are previous that now.
2016-10-15 12:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by sachiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that everything happens for a reason. I also believe that something was wrong with the baby if you miscarried it. Just keep trusting in the Lord. I will pray for you
2006-10-04 05:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋