I feel afraid of doing this move, cause I think it may be too risky to be that close to a bf, meaning that his faults will show off more clearly to my eyes and vice-versa, that while there is no commitment yet taken (marriage). How do people who can successfully live together handle that? Dont you feel some uncertaintly? Or is it good to know that you cant take the other for granted (and vice versa), cause there is no commitment? I have been married, but I wonder how it must feel different to have clay masks on your face and have your hair all messed and wear old socks with holes on them, in front of... A BOYFRIEND :-O Or seeing your boyfriend wake up every day with his face all messed up and wearing old underwear...It sounds a little scary to me! Does it not break the 'magic'? Does that mean we dont have intimacy enough?
2006-10-04 05:24:33 · 5 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love each other enough and been together after sex enough then who cares what you look like in the morning.see it before you marry it. I lived with my boyfriend for 3 years before we got married and we knoew everything about each other makes it fun waking up in the morning seeing each other on the wrong side of the bed hair due and no makeup. Things adjust in time. Good luck and think positive!
2006-10-04 05:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by tisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That something that you will get used to in time... Like for an example i used to be shy to eat in front of my boyfriend because i was afraid i'll get something in my teeth or on my clothes but then i realized everybody got eat so whats the big deal!!! When everyone wakes up they are no the pretty person they were before they went to sleep, little things like that are natural and if you really love this person it shouldnt bother you just be yourself everyone has thier old clothes and holey socks so whats the big deal, there is nothing to be afraid of thats just life and trust me after a couple months of living with him its going to be home sweet home, your just nervous thats all and i mean if you were married and had a husband you must of lived together so your telling me through the whole time living with your husband you never woke up looking like a mess, so whats so different now unless your making up reasons not to move in...
2006-10-04 12:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I'm an advocate of not living together. Statistically, people who live together before getting marriage have a higher rate of failed marriages. That's just statistics though. Reality is that when you live together before getting married the way you learn to relate to one another is different. You always have a way out, you resolve issues knowing there is always a way out. You learn to relate to one another as "dating" and not as married. Once your married you no longer have a way out. It is supposed to be a life long commitment. The way you learn to relate to each other when living together should be as someone who has made a life long vow and will honor it. Not someone who thinks there is always a way out.
Does it break the magic? Of course it does. Don't be fooled by thinking that it's "all about love." Relationships, at the end of the day, have very little to do with love and everything to do with devotion and commitment to each other. You will have good times and bad times, times when you love the person and times when you hate the person, times when you might desire someone else and times when you desire only your mate. None of that matters, what matter is whether or not you honor the vow you took and stay in the relationship or whether you quit. Wedding vows consist of two parts.. in sickness and in health, richer and poorer, better or for worse. If you can't stand there and say that you'll be with that person "in sickness, poorer, and for worse for the rest of your life" You have no business saying "I do" to that person.
2006-10-04 12:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by wldathrt77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing about love that is magical is the love part. everyone is born imperfect.so forget the holy socks and clay mask, if he loves you and you love him it won;t matter. i have been with my bf for six years we moved in together after six months...yikes (as far as my mom was concerned!) the only thing that matters to us is each other and half on the rent and bills!
2006-10-04 12:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Brownsugga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in with him but keep ur place for emergencies
2006-10-04 12:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋