My bf always tells me he's busy, he calls and texts rarely, sometimes no calls or text for a whole day, and his excuse is always that he's overwhelmed with work. I don't believe being busy stops you from sending a text message( it takes only 2mn ) .
I have talked to him and tried to explain the way I felt but he seemed like he never understood why it is so upsetting to me
I stopped contacting him for a couple of days he freaked out. He swears to God he loves me and says that it's all in his heart and that there's no use to keep on showing love every single day..
2006-10-04 05:15:07 · 19 answers · asked by leave me alone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ps : why is he doing this to me ? what should I do ?
2006-10-04 05:16:07 · update #1
he's not cheating on me I am positive but my problem is that he's not devoting too much effort and time for me : he goes out whith his clic and when I call he doesn't answer the phone
2006-10-04 05:26:00 · update #2
If you can't handle such a situation which is making you very
upsetting, then I would suggest that you let go of him and find
someone else who has the time for you.
But, before you do that, you must first find out the truth why
he's so busy with his work. The important thing is that he
mustn't cheat on you and he sincerely loves you. If you have
established the two above factors which are the truth, then
you shouldn't abandon him but give him time and also you
should be patient enough to understand his situation.
I hope this would help. Best of luck.
2006-10-04 05:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by steplow33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, i've been in your position before. They don't call or text for a couple of days, because they're "too busy." I agree with you, a text message only takes a couple of minutes to send, and I doubt sending one is going to throw his entire day off. My advice to you is, let him see how it feels to have the lack of communication. He is so used to you making the moves, and now you need to step back, and let him make them. A relationship is a two way street, and no one person should not be putting forth the effort all the time. Like you can call and text him, he can do the same. Let him know how you feel, and if he keeps this up, then find someone that thinks you're worth the effort to take a few minutes out of their schedule. There's nothing wrong with being busy, and you should understand that he is busy; however, you don't have to settle for being treated less than what you're worth. Hang in there hun, it will get better. Good luck! :)
2006-10-04 12:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for not contacting him for a few days! Nobody likes it when the tables are turned. However, i don't know if he is playing you or what, but it sounds like he only wants you when it's convenient for him. I would find a guy that coincides with my life and schedule, not when he wants me to be. And like you said, a phone call doesn't take but a minute and a text even shorter than that. If he can't be decent enough to even text you, then forget his ***. You can do better. You deserve better.
2006-10-04 12:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to show love every day? That's bull. I would dump his sorry a s s and find someone better. I see the other responses and I cannot understand why they seem to be saying you need to curb your own feelings. Look, the bottom line is that is you're dating someone who makes you feel insecure about him, or bad or whatever, move on. The purpose of dating is to be with someone you enjoy, who bring out good feelings in you, etc, and if he doesn't, move on. You will find the guy who makes you feel the way you want.
2006-10-04 12:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be too busy to text you back every single day. I think you are being a little insecure. Leave him alone and he will text you when he has time. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-04 12:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that your problem really is that he doesn't text you or contact you. I think your problem is tha he has given you some reason to not trust him. He has done someting that makes you think that he is out there with other women. That is the real issue.
So. You need to think and figure out just what he has done to make you think that way. And if you believe your belief is well founded, then you need to talk to him about this trust issue.
If you don't want to talk to him about it then you really need to end the relatinoship. no one deserves to be hounded by someone who doesn't trust them and you don't deserve to always be wondering what he is doing.
2006-10-04 12:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so needy. All you need to know is that he does love you. My ex husband was too needy and I finally had enough of it. So you see, by complaining and playing games with him you are only hurting yourself.
2006-10-04 12:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate for my bf to call me everyday, some people is just like that. I don't think hes playing you from what you wrote.
2006-10-04 12:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't be for sure if he is playing you. I do know, it's not necessary for someone to call every day to prove that they are in love with you.
2006-10-04 12:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out, he is just NOT that into you!
Guys are easy to predict. If they really like you they would come running to you. In your case, he gives you cold 'shoulder'. Try to face off with him. Tell him nicely that you dont like feeling neglected by him. If he doesnt change....then time to move on.
2006-10-04 12:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋