how do i get my 15 year old daughter to clean up after herself?

Answer 1

treat her like a dog, and put her nose in it!!

Answer 2

There's a gentleman by the name of James Jones who has created an excellent program to help parents deal with kids and responsibilites in a very non-combative way. He teaches you how to establish a token economy system within the family that transfers the responsibility for effort back to the kids. My sister and I lived together for about a year and had 14 kids between us. We used the system VERY effectively - and there was no argument. Either a kid does what he's supposed to or he loses the money he should have earned - and along with it the privileges he wants. I think you'll find the system if you Google James Jones - and good luck!

Answer 3

I remember hating my parents for this but I do it now with my son. On a certain day (ours was saturday) we couldn't go anywhere or do anything until our rooms were clean and the house was clean. No phone and No TV. If that doesn't work go in with a garbage bag and clean it your self. She's going to want the stuff in the bag. So if she keeps her room clean and picks up after herself then she can have it back if not make her donate the stuff. Sooner or later she'll realize that you mean business and she'll do it. Good Luck

Answer 4

A question every parent has on their lips!!! No kids like to clean up after themselves.

What I do with my three is give them a rewards scheme ... basically if they do all their chores all week they get a small reward at the end of the week, but if they are failing to do what they are suppose to they get points taken away ... if they have more than three points taken away they lose something outta their bedroom until they have earn't it back ... i.e. the playstation gets taken out until they earn enough points back from doing as they are suppose to.

It works pretty well now we've got into the routine of doing it.

Answer 5

I give my kids one afternoon to get it cleaned up. At a predetermined time I come back in and anything not cleaned up gets bagged for trash or to donate to a charity because she obviously doesnt care about the item anymore. When she runs out of stuff, she will not have to worry about clutter.

BTW- do not replace what has been gotten rid of! very important.. and you must stick to your guns. Some things that were gifts from grandparents got returned to the grandparents for safekeeping.

Answer 6

Hi the best thing to do is to tell her. Dont nesscary moad or shout at her. Just say in furture please would you beable to tidy up after your selves. But it depends on what she isnt tidying up. If its clothes on the floor or make up everywhere. If she refuses to clean up then either you make a mess in her room where she dosent like it or bin her stuff you come across. Ok binning them is a bit harsh but hide them from her then tell her you have chucked them in the rubbish because she didnt do as you asked. But if its like not taking pots out and cleaning up in genereal you may just need to have a quite word and tell her she will have to do it for herself sometime or another and its time for her to take responsabiltie and get used to it.

Answer 7

Make sure you have a nice hamper. Most teens are messy with their clothes. If she doesn't put her dirty clothes away take away a privilege for every item left about....hahahaha. Any other clean up duties around the house you HAVE to make a given. Give her the jobs to do and then follow up and make sure it is done. Don't be coy about it...you are in charge!

Answer 8

good luck, I have a teen that is so messy and doesnt pick up a thing after herself, I am at my wits end with this... other than how messy she is she is great kid.

the best thing that i have found is not letting her talk on the phone untill room is clean and then i at least get a quick halfway clean room out of her.

Answer 9

i wouldn't have believed it at 15, but I do now... there has been research linked to the way teens think & their thought processes are vastly different from an adult. Its possible that you need to have more clear goals/chores along with stricter repurcussions. clean up after yourself isn't good enough because honestly she can't understand what you mean by that (i know, i know, she can SEE it but she cant See it ~ its too vague)
Don't start a regime all at once, just talk to her honestly that you want to improve your relationship & chores/extra responsibility is what you need.

Answer 10

It ain't happenin". Keep the door to her room closed, then you don't have to look at the mess, insist on no food in room, or small children!! DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT enter that room!!!!!!!!!! She will eventually run out of clean clothes, when she does, quietly give her instructions on how to run washer and dryer!! You would be more than happy to do this little chore for her, but you are unable to go into her room, further more, how could you possibly know what clothes are clean or dirty!!!!!!!! I've go 4 kids, it worked on every one of them!!!!!!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

set-up a cleaning up allowance..this way she wont crib about u taking away her privileges and she wont take it personally and try 2 become a rebel for a stupid cause.she will be tempted by the allowance for the time being but cleaning up will become a habit afterwards.