I dated my boyfriend for two years. We had a very good relationship, but we fell away from each other. We broke up in June and remained in contact with each other. We never really had a huge fight at the end, and there was no cheating. We recently got back together (about 2.5 weeks ago) and he told me that he had dated (and slept with) someone while we were broken up. Clearly I have no right to be upset about ( and I am really not). He said that he had no feelings for her and currently has no contact with her. We have been spending a lot of time together, and having a really great time doing so. I am frustrated because he won't tell me how he feels about me, if he sees this as something long term, etc. He told me that he loves me, but is not in love with me. He also does not tell me that he loves me. He says that if I pressure him that it will just make this whole thing harder to get back on track. Does he just need time? Or should I be concernced that he does not love me
2006-10-04 05:04:59 · 10 answers · asked by e2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's always a chance, but he should know by now whether or not he loves you. I'd say he enjoys your company and enjoys the benefits of dating you, you know what I mean. I'd stop the relationship and just stay friends. Protect your heart on this one. If he loves you, he needs to start letting you know.
2006-10-04 05:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I figured out last night that we love each other, but aren't in love with each other anymore. There is a difference. While we care about each other, the spark is gone. There isn't that feeling anymore. And you can't be with someone if that feeling doesn't exist. At least, have the relationship go anywhere. I say let it go. It's not worth the pain to have to go through that again. Good luck.
2006-10-04 05:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so overly concerned about his time. Be more concerned about yours. Do not be a follower, just waiting to hear what you want. Take the initiative, be your own person. Although I think love is important, there is an awful lot of life you have to live. Concentrate on yourself for a bit. He will respect you all the more.
2006-10-04 05:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has told you that he loves you, but it not IN love with you. Hmmm. It doesn't sound like he wants this to last. You were together for 2 years, did he tell you that he was in love with you then?
Be cautious. Don't let this be another relationship like the one he had while you were broken up.
2006-10-04 05:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking into it to deep. He will come around when he's ready. I really don't think it's going to work. Never go back he was an ex for a reason. Always move forward or you will never find something new. Good luck!
2006-10-04 05:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a guy that loves you and is IN love with you with everything he's got. Don't settle. You've grown comfortable with this guy cuz you've been with him for so long and finally got back together. Let him go and start fresh with another babe.
2006-10-04 05:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making this very dramatic. Just have fun together and enjoy each other's company. Love will develop over time unless you destroy it with drama.
2006-10-04 05:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That;s one of those personal questions that you have to answer within youself
2006-10-04 05:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by PUDDIN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some time. if it doesn't seem hopeful after a while, you can forget it.
2006-10-04 05:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? please move on!
2006-10-04 05:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋