I have been dating a guy for 6 months. We have been taking it REALLY slow and getting to know each other. We've become really close and have definitely fallen for each other. I know he cares about me a lot and that I am really special to him.
The major setback is that he is incredibly busy with college. I told him that I understand that he is busy, but I can't help but want more from him. I know he feels bad that he doesn't have more time for me.
My question is do I wait until his semester is over and be patient, or look for finding someone new?
My guy isn't the most verbal about his feelings, but he is a great listener, very affectionate, and really interested in me as a person. I've known him for almost two years now. We were friends first, and have been seriously dating for the last 6 months. We have an incredible time when we are together - we laugh and genuinely care about each other.
I'm just worried about wasting my time.
2006-10-04 04:53:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, if you feel a connection with him, stay around as long as you can stand to. Look, we all have our limits and needs in terms of companionship. It's normal to feel frustrated, but he is trying to figure out your limits while you innately know them. Let him know you would like to spend more time with him but understand he is busy with school (which you should be encouraged by, a man wanting to support you) and see what comes of it. Converse optimistically and I think you will find the outcome positive.
2006-10-04 05:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're wasting your time, you just might be. It's understandable that he's in college and is busy, but if he really wants to be with you, he'll get to you somehow/someway.
My brother had a relationship with a girl who went to school two hours away and they made it work. They set time for each other and didn't let anything get in the way of that.
See if your guy wants to do the same thing. You'll be able to tell if you should wait or not (before the semester is over).
2006-10-04 05:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only wasting your time if you don't care for him or him for you.
If you think that this can eventually progress into something more, then stick with it.
Trust me, I know exactly what you are going through. I've been my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He's extremely busy with work and I barely get to see him let alone talk to him. It's can be a really difficult thing to deal with. But, look at it this way, your boyfriend as a legit reason for not spending much time with you. It's not that he doesn't want to spend time with you, it's the he can't. Just continue being patient, college will eventually end and things will change.
2006-10-04 05:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 02:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think it is, if nothing happens. get over it. Ur not marrying this guy. U don't even know him, even if it's slow. 6 Months is not no not enough. He's in college, and he is busy. u don't need to find some1 exactly, it will be the same. But if he is that busy, ur not getting to know him. And it won't work. Just enjoy the moment.
2006-10-04 04:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking if you should find someone else then this guy must not be that special to you. He is in college for a reason, he's working on starting his life. If you really care you wouldn't even ask this question.
2006-10-04 04:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you are wasting your time, and explain how you feel. Tell him that you want to be supportive of his education, yet at the same time you wonder where you fit in.
If you are that close, and respect one another, you should be able to have a loving, open and honest conversation about this.
2006-10-04 04:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by jt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my g/f now ex broke up because of what you just described she wasnt spending enough time with me. Get out unless things are going to change pretty soon.
2006-10-04 04:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not continue with him. I think your reasons are not enough to make look elsewhere, except you a flirt and you are not satisfy with your guy's attention.
2006-10-04 05:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question.
2006-10-04 04:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋