Since middle school i had a crush my bestfriend's brother, he knew that i liked him but he wouldn't pay attention to me. I would cry for him and would always be there for him, even when his stupid girlfriend cheated on him. I had three years i hadn't seen him but now he works where i work. When i saw him at work i was what the heck is he doing here. I was trying to hide from him but he saw me. He started talking to me and we were talking about our lifes, He asked me if i had a boyfriend and told him yes i do and i will probably get marry with him next year. Everytime i work i see him he comes up to me and he starts talking to me, helps me on my department, and "flirts" around with me a lot and he also ask me if i wanted to go out to the movies with him for my birthday. He told his friends that in the future we were going to get marry and he's always looking at me. I really really love my boyfriend and i don't know what to do because i think my feelings are coming back for him.
2006-10-04 04:52:19 · 10 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you need to pick one of them. Pick one and let that be your decision. It's obvious that the old crush is or will be a huge temptation for you. If you love your boyfriend and want to stay with him, DON'T GO to the movies. It'll probably ruin the relationship, if anything it'll definitely cause problems between you too. If you decide to go with the old crush, then you have to be up front with your boyfriend and break up with him now before your commited in marriage.
You're going to have to make a choice. You won't be able to work with both. You're going to end up hurting someone, just don't make it you.
2006-10-04 04:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I've kind of been in a similar experience. Where I liked someone but had a boyfriend. Trust me flirting can sometimes send off the wrong signal, and cause a lot of drama! I know it put me in the predicament where now my boyfriend and I are having trust issues. You should establish that you only want to be friends with your old crush. Tell your boyfriend about him asking you to the movies and see how he feels. Then only then, if he says he's okay with it then you can go. But if you feel that maybe something will happen if you're alone with him then you shouldn't go!!
Hope I helped!
2006-10-04 12:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by hotchick5195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop talking to your old crush and tell him no about the movie because you are in love with your bf and you dont want things to get screwed up. Just do what your heart is telling you to do. Dont do something that you will end up regreting like going with your old crush. Just think by yourself and ask yourself, do you love your bf and is it worth losing him all for an old crush?
2006-10-04 11:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend he shouldn't have asked you out in the first place. If you really love your boyfriend then you should tell your crush that you are not interested. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 11:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with your boyfriend. that guy may have told his friends that he wanted to marry you, and he may mean it, or he may be telling you that he told his friends that to make an impression on you. don't trust it either way. if you've never had anything between the two of you he doesn't know anything about marrying you, especially if the two of you are as young as you sound. if he knows you had feelings for him for all these years he knows he could easily take advantage of you. but you know your current boyfriend is for real if the two of you are talking about marriage.
2006-10-04 12:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is follow your heart...If you are happy where you are at then don't mess things up by a "what if or what could be" If you are sure that you love your boyfriend then stay with him, you already know what is, if the other one doesn't respect that then he isn't what he seems...GOOD LUCK, make the right decision
2006-10-04 12:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by jtb33098 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are not the feelings u feel when u are with your (crush)sweetie take it for what it's worth the past, don't mess up a for-sure relationship for a ship passing in the night. you'll reget it and soon be asking the question why.....let sleeping dogs lie....don't mess up your already good thang remember (you are getting married next year)
2006-10-04 11:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless u are having doubts about ur marriage, i would go on with my plans b/c u obviously gave this guy his chance and now he wants u cause he cant have u. if i liked/loved someobody and they blew me off, i wouldnt ruin my life to give them another chance. im sure ure going thru a heck of a time however, especially if u work w/ him. good luck.
2006-10-04 11:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by wizzpack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't love your bf that much if you are considering going out with this other guy. Do what makes you happy but don't cheat on your bf.
2006-10-04 11:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him if you really and honestly love your BF.
2006-10-04 11:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋