whats this mean, please help?
ok about a month ago, i spilled my guts to one of my friends, told her that i like her alot, and all this stuff, shes only 13. well she wrote me back and said she hasnt ever seen us as more thanfriends, and that she dont like me like that but she dont want it to ruin our 8 year frendship.. well..over the past month, I've been avoiding her, simply for my sake, just simply not to bring those feelings back up, cuz when I'm around her they all come back. but she emailed me yesterday, and said she was sad, becauze it was straining our friendship. and she wants things like they used to be, well i told her why i had been avoinding her, and she said she totatlly understood why. well, I know she dont like me like that now, but am I crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the future, cuz she was obvioulsy ( she said) she was really sad, seeing us like this, and since shes only 13, am i crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the next year or two? she also said, " dont take the rejection to heart
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that the reason was probably stupid anyway, whats that mean?
2006-10-04 04:48:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your 'friend" was honest with you. You were not the only one to spill you guts . She went out on a limb as well when she told you her true feelings.
Try to accept her answer and go from there. You do not realize it but you are hurting her by withholding your friendship. You said you have been friends for 8 years already and I think if she was good enough to be your friend all this time she should still be your friend now.
Yes it will be hard if you have feelings for her, but you shouldn't punish her for seeing you as a friend rather than a boyfriend.
Who knows in time she might be head over heels for you and you might have found that you only want her for a friend, or you and she might get together and have a great life. You cant know what is going to happen.
She might think her reasons for wanting to stay friends would sound stupid and childish to you ... after all you are 15 and she is only 13. You are an older guy to her age group.
2006-10-04 05:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you need time to heal your heart, that avoiding you isn't anything personal against her. During the time your avoiding her you have to take a hard look at things. You were friends for 8 years, because of that she was totally upfront from the start and said "no". That takes a lot of courage to let someone down that way (matter of fact it SUCKS to do that) and seeing that she's only 13 I see it as very mature of her. You have a good friend there, don't be foolish and throw it away because you're not getting your way. By all means take the time to get over the disappointment and hurt, then suck it up and be her friend again. To do any thing else would be the only stupid thing you've done yet. Much luck!!
2006-10-04 04:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely...U nEEd to reconsider.....
u are 15 and she is 13.... you guys still young and would find true love some day..it seems you are a very good-hearted person and you really care for both of you...u don't want to be hurt and u don't want her to suffer....
SHE misses the friend in you..the talks and chats between you guys ...SHE trust you as a friend...maybe with time she would come to realize that she loves you...just give her a chance and am sure it will blossom soon.....
2006-10-04 04:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fairly of telling you what to do, enable me drop some knowledge on you: a million) friends make the perfect enthusiasts 2) 13 twelve months olds might want to no longer be waiting for genuine relationships--she has a weigh down on 3 adult males: a movie well-loved individual, a rock well-loved individual, and a similar guy all 50 females in her class do, and would not imagine in genuine words about having a boyfriend. 3) Friendships fizzle with time besides, do not difficulty about ruining some thing through starting up a relationship. 3.5) do not cover from her/keep away from her because she would not like you that way. settle for that she would not, and paintings on making your self extra eye-catching typically, fairly than attempting to get her. dangle round her as a lot as accessible without being her lost domestic dog canines following her everywhere. 4) If she isn't in touch in you, telling her how a lot you want her received't replace that. no longer some thing is way less eye-catching than being needy. even with if you're a funky guy in the different case, the added she thinks you want her, the a lot less she will be in a position to love you. You 2 shouldn't 'favor' one yet another till you've a a lot deeper relationship. (Exception: you would possibly want to attempt blowing her away with a grand, romantic, Cassanova gesture, yet when it would not paintings, you're performed with her--i do not propose it.) 4.5) common sense would not paintings right here--do not argue a case for your self. in simple terms be eye-catching and wait till she turns into attracted. 5) you aren't any further waiting for 5 yet! 6) If she isn't in touch in you, date or a minimum of flirt with different women individuals. between the large differences between adult males and women individuals is that women individuals imagine that a guy who's with women individuals is hotter than a guy without women individuals. therefore, in case you commence putting round fairly some women individuals and date some lovable ones, your pal will commence wondering you're a hottie and may want to purpose to scouse borrow from the ladies you're flirting with. (weird and wonderful--i understand--a guy sees a warm female with a bf and thinks it is going to likely be a lot difficulty to scouse borrow her faraway from him that he could seem for someone unmarried--women individuals do not imagine like that even with the actuality that! they imagine a unmarried guy is individual who won't be able to get a lady!) I in simple terms said female Pom's answer--she knows her stuff too!
2016-12-04 06:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still really young...she might like you or feel the same way as you do in a few years. Don't ruin the friendship now. She might end up falling for you if you cont. being her friend.
2006-10-04 04:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin the friendship, you never know maybe in a few years she will be coming after you.
2006-10-04 04:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Hayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know wat to tell no to be mean cuz that has happen to me once before and it really sucks.... u just go by there thinking about them each and every day and stuff it sucks so ya.. i think that u should just try and move on with out her u guys can just be friends and stuff try to work it out like that and see were it goes from there. or just tell her that u really really like her and u cant get her off ur mind okay! i REALLY hope it WORKS out for u!
2006-10-04 04:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by *SoMe*OnE*SeCeRt* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone, or act like a buddy only, these are two choices. In the long run she'll date total creeps and *** holes and come running back to you, eventually she'll want you. hopefully when she's of age of consent.
2006-10-04 04:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by phjamo2021 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get real, you're 15, you aren't getting married tomorrow. Concentrate on your education and having fun with your friends. The woman thing will all work out when you are older.
2006-10-04 04:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was in a similar situation and i think u shud let go coz it WILL come bk if it was meant to b. dont scare her away. b frndz till shes ready. if u cnt wait tht long then giv it up coz she stated clearly tht she wants to wait.
2006-10-04 04:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Aitannaa ツ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋