How would you feel if someone of the same sex started flirting with you?

Question

I am trying to make some sense of how I feel right now. I am a guy. I have to wear my hair in a ponytail at work. My hair's not that long, so I have to wear it more mid-head than nape. There is a guy there that sometimes tugs it when he is behind me and makes comments about it being "cute" etc. After some questions here, some people suggested he is flirting with me rather than trying to make fun, or cause a fight. I don't know for sure that is true yet.

But I have been feeling mixed emotions since someone first said this. I've. never had a real GF before, but I do like girls and not felt attracted to guys, so I figured I wasn't gay. It's not like I feel attracted to this guy either. I mean I posted this morning figuring he was looking for a fight.

But now I am confused about how I feel because even though he is a guy, I kind of feel good in a way that someone (anyone) is maybe flirting with me too.

How would you feel if someone of the same sex flirted with you. How would you react.

People who said flattered really helped me. That was a word I was struggling to find but sort of helps me make some sense of what I am feeling.

Answer 1

I live in progressive area, if that matters, anyway..

I would just act friendly like he is joking with you. Act oblivious whether it is a come on or a mean spirited joking. If he is just joking, then in the future you will maintain a happy work environment. If not he will tire if bugging you and If he is gay then he will see that you are not and he will not feel embarrassed. ///Examples. ?/' Oh how cute (ponytail)..."Gee thanks," or " Thanks, I have been growing it forever it seems" or " Yeah that is what my mom tells"... or "that's what the girls tell me" or .."do you think I should add highlights?' ..or " Yes.. I 'm gong for a 70's or 80's look" or Why don't you grow one?".
The point is be obvious and keep it light until you figure out what is really up, or until it blows over.
Oh and if he is gay, it is a compliment if he thinks you are special, gay men have good taste don't they?' also you are more masculine and mature to behave secure and cool about it. If he wants to fight or is becoming a problem then post again...we are all here for you..:).

Answer 2

Take it as a compliment, several people in there life question there sexuality, it doesn't mean you are gay. Some people test the waters to see where there feelings take them. You would be surprised to know just how many strait men actually share the same feelings as you. Women are so much more open and honest, it's society. Make this person a friend, and go hang out a few times, invite him to your home, and see how the energy is between the two of you. Be honest with him ahead of time, if he comes on to you, let him know you are flattered but you are just not sure what to think of the situation and you would enjoy his friendship. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You will know in your heart whether your preference is one way or the other or somewhere in between; Just go by what you feel. People should treat each other as unique and not try to define or commit to just homosexual or heterosexual strictly.

It's on a continuum. Regarding this ponytail-puller, try to get to know him a little bit, maybe go to lunch or in a group to start out. If the attention makes you feel weird or embarrassed because others are around, make a habit of not standing too close to him, or if he comes up from behind, kind of shoot him a little bit of a dirty look and shake your head no. That might work.

Answer 4

I work as a server, so I get my share of gay guys and couples there. I am only slightly ashamed to admit that I am not beyond a little flirting for the sake of my tips. I mean, I have to flirt with whoever I can, gay guys, old women, soccer moms, etc. Being flirted with is flattering no matter who is flirting with you. Just decide what, if anything, you are willing to allow to come of this then flirt and accept the attention accordingly.

Answer 5

I am a lesbian in a committed relationship. If another women flirted with me I would handle it the same way as if another man flirted-Not interested.
Men seem to have more difficulty when question if they could be in a sexual relationship with another guy, because that is not manly.
Only you can decide if you want to take this attraction further or not. Humans places strict boundries on ourselves, instead of enjoying the moment. If you are in a relationship ask if you want to cheat.
Jan

Answer 6

Well I know that I am definitely a heterosexual therefore I would get pissed if a woman came on to me. You have to be sure about your sexuality so that you'll be able to address issues like this when they happen. You're either straight or your not! The Bi thing to me by definition is just frigging confused! Or they like having the cake and eating it too! I'm a woman who straight up want to deal with only the male specie! Nothing else could ring my bell. So for you, you really need to get your head together on what you're going to do about your sexuality. Especially now that you're either going to be picked on, picked up or picky!

Answer 7

When I was younger, fear of the unknown was a factor, and I reacted badly toward male attention of this nature.

Now I'm older, still rigidly straight, but have had friends who are of alternate persuasions. So long as he knows your stragiht, and respects your boundaries - like anyone should for anyone else, same-sex or not - then simply take it as a compliment.

If it continues and makes you uncomfortable, put a stop to it, because it then become innappropriate.

Answer 8

It is flattering, the person finds you attractive so it is a compliment. However, you need to make it clear what your boundaries are, for example, there was a gilr at college who made a pass at me, I said to her I was flattered but that I was straight, simple as that. We became really close friends after that.

Answer 9

I agree. maximum gay human beings understand who they could hit on and who they couldn't. I doubt very a lot that John hit on Paul in any respect. It sound to me like Paul is searching for interest in an quite adverse way or in simple terms attempting to commence difficulty for John. the different element you made develop into also very valid. ninety 8% of fellows do no longer bypass round hitting on each and every female they meet or see. They understand who they ought to and may no longer hit on and are respectful. you're certainly a gents and continually were. leave Paul on my own, he's not a "healthful" pal. Peace, Love & Happiness

Answer 10

I wouldn't be too damn happy about it but at the same time I wouldn't really haul off an check their jaw not unless they touched me in a real wrong way. I would just explain to them that I'm not in to that kind of stuff and let them know that I don't knock what they like but I just don't share the same interest.