I have very nice in-laws and a wonderful husband. Although I respectfully acknowledge thier holidays as well as attend thier holiday get togethers they never send cards or even verbally acknowledge my holidays. I have invited them to holiday parties and explained my holidays to them yet they still act as if my holidays don't exsist. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings but I am hurt and growing a bit resentful. has anyone else experienced this problem? Tell me about your situation. It will make me feel less alone. Thanks.
2006-10-04 04:26:45 · 7 answers · asked by veronicazombie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am in an inter-faith marriage and i always try to respect the traditions and holidays of my in-laws by acknowledging their holidays the same as you do...thru cards or emails and gifts etc...sometimes they respond but sometimes they dont.....as a christian celebrating christmas and thanksgiving is very important to me and the times my in-laws "forget" it kinda hurts but over the years i have learned i am not responsible for how they treat or respect me i am only responsible for how i treat and respect them....my advice to you is to keep doing what you do and comfort yourself in knowing your husband ,even if he never mentions it, is aware of your efforts and i am sure it makes him feel proud he chose you...good luck
2006-10-04 04:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I have never had this problem, but maybe you should tell them how you feel. Maybe in their mind they feel like it's not a big deal cause you haven't said anything to them. So just let them know that they should be as considered as you are to their holidays. If they don't then I wouldn't attend anymore of their holidays if they can't seem to come to yours and just call it a day.
2006-10-04 04:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your in-laws know how you feel. Then if they still do not acknowledge your holidays just except the fact that they do not want to be apart of them. It may be hard but you can not change them.
2006-10-04 04:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by faybe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't know when your holidays are and whether they should respond or not.
Why not invite them. They may not know.
If after inviting they don't come then just let it go but continue what you are doing because what you are doing is a very good thing and don't stop that.
I am proud of you for what you are doing.
Don't worry
2006-10-04 05:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your level of expectation is to high. Your only accountable for your actions. Don't do things, just to get a response from them. Be confident that you are doing the right thing, and continue to do it with a positive attitude. You will be blessed.
2006-10-04 04:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by A Friend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to accept your religious holidays. It's rude to even remotely expect it. Just accept it.
2006-10-04 05:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry
2006-10-04 04:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋