Is your participation / money you spend on being apart of the party considered the "gift"?
2006-10-04 04:25:43 · 32 answers · asked by ataman 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, you should still give them a gift. Sometimes the whole bridal party goes in on a gift for the bride & groom. If everyone is short on cash (due to the bride picking out the most expensive dress, shoes, accessories, etc...you are required to buy and wear) then I would recommend this option.
2006-10-04 04:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No not really. The bride/groom usually get the wedding party gifts for being in the wedding. I suggest maybe having everyone in the wedding party give a set $ amount per person & give the gift as a whole. My cousin got married a couple of years ago & we each donated $100 each from each bridesmaid. But the $ amount should be agreed upon by all of you. Good Luck
2006-10-04 04:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Littles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding gifting is not compulsory for ANYONE. You only gift the couple if you want to.
Shower gifting-- if you choose to attend a shower, you must being a physical gift with you (not money or gift card), but it can be small or even handmade. By etiquette, showers are the ONLY type of party in life that require a gift be given.
Now, regarding this particular bride and groom you are beign a bridesmaid for-- I cannot say what THEY expect (there certainly are a lot of gift-grubbing couples out there these days) but if you want the published, established etiquette authority guidelines, there they are.
2006-10-04 10:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By strict etiquette, yes, I'm afraid you are supposed to give a gift.
Nowadays many brides I know don't hold with this. If the bride is a good friend, she knows how expensive it is to be in the wedding and probably would consider your support present enough. But I've been surprised before on this count.
If you want to give a gift but money is tight, you can do something more homemade for the couple (a nicely framed wedding invitation, for example) or wait a couple months after the wedding and get them something from their registry that they didn't receive (that last place setting, maybe).
2006-10-04 07:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should be getting them a wonderful wedding gift. What you have spent to be an attendant is your own deal, it is not at all the gift for the couple , or part of the gift! I have read this on here before, and I don't know where you people get this idea from. If you didn't want to spend the money, you should have declined being in the wedding party!
2006-10-04 05:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sucks, I know (I am in a wedding in two weeks.), but you are (ettiquete) required to buy a gift (within the first year of marriage, but it's nice to have it by the wedding day).
The good thing is, if you are tight on cash (like I am due to the wedding) the couple should understand if you get them a small gift.
I will probably only get them a $50 gift (from me and my bf) since I have already thrown her a wedding shower, bought a gift for that shower and bought another gift for another shower the groom's aunt threw, and am also throwing the bachlorette. Plus, I bought a dress and had it altered, bought shoes, am paying for my hair to get done, and a reserved a hotel room for the wedding night, but I know my friend will definately understand and she has told me I don't have to get her anything.
Just talk to the bride if you are worried she would be mad about not getting a big gift, but odds are she will understand and it will be a non-issue.
2006-10-04 05:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a female part of a wedding party, you are expected to be a part of throwing a bridal shower-including giving a gift (usually a joint gift with the other bride's maids), buying a dress and associated things (bra, shoes) and yes, giving a wedding gift to the couple. It can get to be a very pricy proposition.
2006-10-04 04:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically yes... but it really depends on you. You should understand that by being in the wedding party, the bride or groom are required to get you a gift as a thank you for being a part of their wedding.
2006-10-04 04:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES you still have to buy a gift!! You could go as a guest and not be part of the bridal party if you cant afford to do both! You sound like a cheap bad friend. Give them a good gift even if you in the bridal party!!!! Or else they will think you are a cheap bad friend.
2006-10-04 06:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was the maid of honor in my best friends wedding and I still got her a wedding gift. Your participation and your money is not really considered a wedding gift.
2006-10-04 04:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by sexymama05112005 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋