out of the blue, 4 days ago, my partners son called him. now all of a sudden, he wants to meet his dad. ive always known that my partner had kids, but now, they are coming out of the woodwork. i just find it strange that someone would call and want to get to know someone after 20 years.
then to make matters worse, he doesnt drive, so his mother is bringing him up here, which is 5 states away from where they live. i dont have a problem with the son staying with us, but i made it clear from the first phone call that i dont want the mother in my house.
after last night, i am being called jealous because i refuse to let her stay in my house. i told my partner that i think that its being disrespectful to me to even consider having her stay in my home. then i am being called jealous and hateful because i dont want her here. its not a problem with the son. i accepted his oldest daughter without a problem. in fact, i was the one that got them talking again after 15 years.
2006-10-04 04:07:52 · 11 answers · asked by lodeemae 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't blame you for not wanting the mother to stay in the house. If you are being called jealous admit it and say yes I am feeling jealous right now. I don't trust the situation and feel uncomfortable with the situation. Hateful... possibly and so I think you have a right its not a good idea and i agree with your feelings.
2006-10-04 04:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by KayAlley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you wouldn't want the mother staying at your house. I contacted my biological father after 27 years, and I do drive, but if this son doesn't drive, seems that there should be another way for him to meet his dad if he really wants to without mommy. I don't think you are jealous, but it's time for mommy to cut the cord. Let the 20 year old find his own way to meet dad. I did.
2006-10-04 04:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by B B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my wife went through this last year....I got divorced in 1989, and my ex left without telling anyone where she was, and I still continued to pay child support. But, after 15 years, my boys found me, and it was the most exciting time in my life to get reaquainted. My wife was, and has been fully supportive, as a matter of fact, my youngest son (20 years old) really likes her. now, as of Febuary, we are proud grandparents, and both of my boys like my wife, and she likes them. I agree with you that his ex should not be allowed to stay in your house, only the kid. You do have a right in all this to, afterall, you are his new stepmom. Put your foot down, NO EX...but I will love your kid.
2006-10-04 04:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having her stay in your house is a little out of line. As far as the son, people grow up and have a right to know where and who they come from so you should definitely not stand in the way of the father/son reunion.
2006-10-04 04:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by MCS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are being jealous. that is your partners son and your partners son's mother. BOth of them should stay in the house, i think your being jealous about the guys mother and how whe was with your partner. That was in the past, get over it .
2006-10-04 04:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an autistic uncle, regrettably now not with us, and he had an exceptionally unfavorable high quality of life because of the fact of my gran.yet i can understand lots approximately your question.A kin pal has an autistic son that keeps to be in sheltered housing with a warden.whilst his father died, his mom needed her son to stay an self reliant life as she too became unwell with maximum cancers.This youthful guy mixes with different autistic human beings and he loves it.And, there is likewise a pair residing close to me that have discovering problems yet are a unswerving couple.additionally, my husband worked in a wellness middle the place yet another couple (back with accessible autism) worked alongside one yet another interior the kitchens washing dishes.They stay for one extra.So, your son can stay a chuffed life with a woman pal, it rather is in simple terms looking the superb ecosystem for him.do not supply up desire, your son merits to be happy with a stunning lady.
2016-10-15 12:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh for crying out loud. what do you think is going to happen? Do you think that after all these years your partner and this ex are going to try to get back together. i think not. you should let her stay and act like a mature adult and don't be so insecure about your relationship. he wouldn't be with you if he didn't love you.
2006-10-04 04:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
evidently some baggage with this woman? Let it go, let whatever develops develop...one kid is " they're coming out of the woodwork?" You have major issues with this man as well, trust for one. You think hes going take back up with her?
2006-10-04 04:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RENT HER A CHEAP HOTEL. ARE YOU INSECURE? WHY ARE YOU FORBIDDEN HER TO COME INTO YOUR HOME? SOUNDS A BIT IMMATURE TO ME. SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO DO THINGS THAT WE DON'T LIKE FOR THE SAKE OF CHILDREN.
2006-10-04 05:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE being jealous!
2006-10-04 04:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋