With all this emphasis on school violence, where's the focus on the real problem? Kids picking on other kids

Question

I was the kid everyone loved to pick on in school. I felt several times like I wanted to lash out and hurt these people. In todays' paper a kid was suspended for writing the names of other student's down and saying he was "going to get them." Now I don't condone violence, but I imagine these other students were inflicting harm on him to cause this reaction. Rather than investigate the cause of the problem (this kids on the list) the principal chose to suspend the kid who wrote the list.

I learned quickly that telling the teacher when someone was mean to me didn't work. I sat and suffered for years. I had spit balls hurled at me. Kids called me names for being overweight and one girl stuffed a bra into my backpack (fat people develop fat in their chest) Now the system has turned against those few who are refusing to sit and suffer - further repressing those being picked on.

I'm not saying school violence is right, but the problem isn't entirely with the one committing the violence

Answer 1

I am sorry - but what is the difference between school violence and bullying - bullying is just another form of school violence.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you have bad memories. Kids are not learning respect for others. Teachers don't know what to do with the bully. Although you might think bullying is the real problem. I disagree.

I blame the parents of the cruel children. One cannot expect the public education system to raise the child in place of the parents. Parents have the authority to exercise discipline to their child. If the correct balance of love and discipline is not obtained, they have failed the child. Negligent discipline is rooted in laziness, denial, or leniency. Too many therapists tell parents of juvenile delinquents, "It is not your fault." Well who else is responsible for raising up the child?

Have you sat in a high school class in the last 5 years? Have you personally seen the void of respect for others? Corporal punishment existed at my school until about 7th grade and has since vanished into history. At least children would fear for authority in those days. Nowadays, there is no fear or respect.

Another interesting note is how so many people are aware of child abuse and believe spanking is in the same category. If spanking is done in anger I consider it child abuse. If spanking is done with a gentle teaching heart I consider it discipline. The consequence must be greater than the crime in order for reformation to occur in a child's mind.

Answer 3

You are absolutely right.

I'm very sorry for what happened to you in school. It was unfair and downright mean.

What kids don't get is that you can only push a kid so far, only abuse him so much before he snaps. That's exactly what happened at Columbine. if the popular kids had just left Dylan and Eric alone and not made fun of them, not abused them, they'd still be alive today. I'm not saying that what Dylan and Eric did was right, but had they been left alone and not abused by their peers, those peers would be above ground today. Nobody seems to get that. Don't make fun of people, just leave them alone, live and let live already! Why aren't parents teaching their children these basic rules? Treat others the way you want to be treated!

Answer 4

My son was picked on in school more than I realized. He didn't tell me about it because he was afraid that I would embarass him by going to the school and making trouble for him. In other words, if I went to the school to complain to the principal or the teachers about the kids picking on him, the kids would just increase their abuse of him. As is, my wife did complain and the principal and teachers just told her she was being overreactive. They did nothing to curb the behavior. If I had known how bad it was, I would have done something about it but I never knew until many years later.
The problem is compound. The school system needs to protect the weaker students from bullying, yes. But more importantly, parents throughout America need to grow up and be parents. Adults are expected to teach their children how to become mature and responsible adults. Unfortunately, many adults are still locked in their own adolescence, looking out for number one and not caring what happens to the people around them, including their own offspring. Until parents take responsibility for their children's rearing and education, the school system will continue to be plagued with bullies and belittled ones.
What you have exemplified is another situation where we treat the symptom instead of the cause.

Answer 5

Kids can be so cruel sometimes sorry for what they did, but dont be worse than them thats what causes school shootings and stuff like that. Your right teachers dont really do anything about it and its fu**ed up if you ask me but even if you do tell a teacher odds are they will find you away from school and do the same if not worse. But dont conflict violence it only makes things worse.

Good Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I am sorry for what happen to you. But violence is never the answer.School won't do anything about cruel kid even with the anti-bully laws.Parents need to be more active in their children's lives and teach them right from wrong.