what is a role of a step father after being married for almost 8 years to pre-teen, teenage, and adult.
2006-10-04 04:00:04 · 8 answers · asked by Allin7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dad...that's what my step-father is to me and I am 36, they have been married for 20 years and regardless of dna, he IS my father. my husband is treated like a dad in my house too, my son will be 15 soon and he calls my husband by his name, but introduces him to others as "this is my dad"
2006-10-04 04:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that you and the mother of the children had discussed this prior to getting married. I am a step father to my wife's son and she is a step mom to my three daughters and we had both agreed to treat them as our own children before we got married. So as far as I am concerned, her son is my son and my daughters are her daughters. My role, is to be as much a daddy to him as I am my daughters, treat him the same, have the same expectations and everything. I have a decent relationship with his father and that helps, but you need to be dad even though you are a step dad, you can not allow that to prevent you from being 100% parent to the children. They need that and deserve that...
2006-10-04 11:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we know they can't replace a father, but they are in a sense a father to the kids. He is there and a part of their lives and helping in raising them. He has rights to parent them as well as real father. This decission was made when you two got married you became one and that means as well with the kids. They become a part as well. As far as disipline that has to be worked out among the mother and step father, but if a step father is seeing they are doing wrong he can't just sit by and allow it. My step father is my dad it isnt always in who helped make me it was the love the disipline the guidence that made me love him like he was my real father.
2006-10-04 11:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A stepfather's role is the same as a father's, but he needs to understand and make sure your kids understand that he is not there to replace their father. You both, along with their father, need to establish what is acceptable and what is not. As long as he is not undermining or degrading their father, it should be okay.
2006-10-04 11:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by HunnyB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind... listen. Be friendly. Ignore bad behavior, good attention for good behaviour, let the other parent be the disciplinarian. You may bring things to moms attention but she should be the one to say hey you were rude to your step dad and your consequeces are.... step will never be dad, tho kids may even like him better but he should respect the kid (as he came later) and let mom tell kid about punishments. The main role of dad is to expect the kid to respect mom. Even if kid is rude to mom, I would say you should say "Ill not sit here and watch as kid disrespects mom." (and exit) Th eless you try to stron arm them th ebetter you will be. Be a good examle, be kind, have a sense of humor, BE someone the kid respects and then just th elook of disapproval from you will be more than they can bear. Step dad should be totally respectful of the mom and expect the same from the kids tho it is HER job to punish if they arent.
ALSO never hit the kids.
NEVER berate the noncustodial father, even if he is a crossdressing bank robber
2006-10-04 11:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to try and be a FATHER....just to be support for the teens. Mostly to be a good husband.
2006-10-04 11:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's whatever the mother WANTS his role to be.
2006-10-04 11:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same as any regular father...
2006-10-04 11:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋