Im a corporate banker, very challenging.. Am told i come across as a very intimidating person.. I happen to be an attractive female 2..But im single .. never had problems dating anyone.. Yet i can't find someone interesting and mentally challenging.. Is it a problem to have high expectations???
2006-10-04 03:46:54 · 17 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope. Never settle. You will only be disapointed in the long run.Maybe you could try realating on different levels and see if that could turn into something. As you already know guys are so full of ego its gross. I am in Senior Management and I am amazed everyday by the staff and there galss enclosed egos. But I try not to be over bearing and understand the persons value and there true heart intentions. I feel for you as I to have had this type issue.
2006-10-04 03:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ben M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and I had that conversation the other day actually. From the general male point of view the idea of a smart women isn't so much the intelligence (although it does play its part) that's intimidating but rather the idea that a smart woman expects to be challenged by her man on a regular basis. He says men love to do whats easy and fun, a smart woman to an average male suppresses the opportunity to just "chill out and have fun." Males see this as having to be on the go (mentally) all the time. Hope its a help.
2006-10-04 03:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men don't neccessarily fear smart women.. they just don't like being wrong and thinking that there woman knows more about something than they do..
You will have to look for some one closer to your standards to be mentally challenging for you.
Any man could be interesting depending on what you want to do and have the same goals and things in common..
Men of the lower working class can be very interesting also if you are not to good to learn more than you already know.
I think you are expecting to much from men.. they are not good communicators and are easily threatened by superior attitude.
2006-10-04 04:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men fear smart women, your question is kind of broad in it's statement. I am very happy for you that you have enjoyed the success you have and are beautiful as well. Sounds like a pretty good package to me... The problem is that most guys are very protective of their pride and if they feel inferior to the woman they are dating, it hurts the pride. Most of the time, rather than rise to meet the challenge, they just leave. Try leaving your "work" attitude at work and just be yourself when you are away from work. It sounds like you may need to let your hair down some and just relax. Good things will happen and you should set your standards high, why settle?
2006-10-04 03:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is like function reversal from how we've been reported: adult men may be the accountable breadwinners at the same time as the girls human beings stay at abode. i understand that's unlike that for the time of recent times in spite of the shown fact that it may appear like this is detrimental his masculinity if a woman is basically as sturdy or maybe a good guy or woman than him. in my opinion i like sturdy and smart women human beings, yet i'm an trouble-free guy so i do no longer could concern any significant frightening repercussions after screwing up. they are able to be intimidating yet i assume adult men specially situations forget they have a softer area.
2016-12-08 08:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are described as intimidating, are they refering to your physique, mental capabilities, pushy style or domineering attitude? It is not a problem to have high expectations but then hope you are not coming across as excessively overbearing? There is someone for everyone, so bid your time you may just meet someone whose interesting and mentally challenging expectations, you may struggle to meet!
2006-10-04 04:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by violeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to lower your sights a little to find a male who is mentally challenging. I am male and have trouble communicating with females; I have a wife and six daughters; I still find it hard to communicate. We seem to think on different levels or in different dimensions. One of my daughters works in the legal profession and scares hell out of everybody. I do income tax work and think it is fun and relaxing. What is sane and not sane? Who cares. Find yourself a bf who thinks doing taxes is fun and relaxing and he will probably be mentally challenging for you. All humans are different and yet alike. My blessing on you, Oh Beautiful One.
2006-10-04 03:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High expectations are great except for one little detail...they dont enable you to "screen people in"...you may find that a simpler, accepting guy might be refreshing after all..dont you get enough mental challenge at work??
:0))
2006-10-04 03:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by drumrrr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a cliche', but you just haven't found the right one. For me, I married an incredibly smart, challenging woman and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love the fact that she and I are similar in intelligence, confidence and both have strong opinions.
2006-10-04 03:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by jwb674 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem at all... For me, intelligence is one of the most attractive qualities in a female (combined w/ confidence!) - Keep looking - you'll find someone you can stay up all night talking with.
2006-10-04 03:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋