arguing with my boyfriend need a soulition?

Question

ok here's the deal he is bein so unfair cause he won't let me go to a party with out him and i need some space but if i go he'll just get even more angry what should i do

Answer 1

Well is there another reason you dont want him there and would you be happy if he went to a party but didnt want you to go.. You need to establish what you both feel happy with in your relationship. If you cant come to an agreement maybe you shouldnt be together

Answer 2

Sounds like it's too early for you both to settle down: if he wants to tell you what you can do or who you can socialize with and you want to go to parties without him, maybe you should both call it off for a while and give each other some breathing room. Is there a reason he doesn't just go with you? Do you have different ideas of fun?

It sounds like he's controlling and you're trying to escape. Bad combination. If you're living together, it'll be tougher, but if you're in separate households, take a break from each other for a while. You both need it.

Answer 3

Is this an all girl party? If not, he probably knows that there will be drunk guys there and knows that they will be hitting on you. He probably would not want your to strap a pound of hamburger to your butt and have you run through the dog pound either. I do not know all the details and it is hard to say if he is being controlling or if he is just being protective, but you do. If he is a controller, then you need to get away from that, it is a horrible way to live.

Answer 4

You need to let him go and find someone else he can control. You should have the right and freedom to do what you want. You guys are not married and even still if he doesn't trust you enough to go to a party then he's a loser! Just get rid of him

Answer 5

Explain to him you need your space and he has nothing to worry about. Maybe he has alot of insecurities he needs to work out within himself let him know he does not have anything to be insecure about and you love him but he has to get over this thing he is going through because it is pushing you away at the end of the day when you come home you come home to him not anyone else so let go of the choke hold

Answer 6

You need to sit him down and let him know that by going to the party you are not doing anything behind his back that will hurt him. He sounds very possesvie and you need to break him of this. Tell him how you feel , be blunt. If he cannot understand then maybe you need to look at the relationship and see if its worth staying in.

Answer 7

Gurl, if you don't let him get over that insecurity it is just going to get worse for you. Why would you want a man who wants to tell you where/when you could go somewhere? You are your own women and you don't have to do anything you don't want too do. He should understand you if you cares for you. What is it a trust issue? Did you do something to make him feel like he can't trust you to got to a party?

Answer 8

If he loves you he'll get over it. If you need some space alone he should respect and understand that. If he's already mad it won't hurt, then he'll realize that your your own person and that he's not going to tell you what to do, put your foot down now and it will help alot.

Answer 9

DON'T GO TO THE PARTY.
What do you mean you need space? go lock yourself in the bathroom and take a long bath then. You sure don't need to go to a party without him. Just imagine if the roles were reversed. Would you be alright with him going to a party without you? if you don't enjoy the time that you spend with your boyfriend, maybe its time to call it quits.

Answer 10

I would let you go cause I would have trusted you. He won't be your bf for very long if he keeps that crap up. Besides I would keep an eye on you. A very careful eye, any GF of mine that would tell me they need space means she is going to do something that I won't approve of. If that happens she's gone.