So my boyfriend of 3 years left his email up on his computer when I was about to check mine and I found conversations with a girl that were inappropriate. Instead of confronting it right there, I decided not to say anything but he told me that he gave her a ride home and that he talks to her often and I became worried. I then asked for his phone the next morning and saw her name and another female he used to make out with in his phone. We got into an argument and he broke my door, I was trying to talk to him as he walked to the car but he kept backing up and not paying attention. Out of frustration, I told a neighbor to call the police and I gave a description of my boyfriend but I turned around and said nm. He now thinks I am crazy, which I am not, but he still is denying the messages that I saw. He is blaming me for everything when I have been dealing with his female issues forever. What should I do? He says he can't ever trust me but he checked my phone before also.
2006-10-04 03:32:06 · 30 answers · asked by None Ya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a cheating dog, let him go. find someone who can love and respect you.
2006-10-04 03:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by bthompsonusa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found out that my gut instinct is usually right. I came across a similiar situation and found out he had cheated. I confronted him with the evidence and we hashed it out (it happened about a year and a half ago). He admitted it all and told me that was why he hasn't proposed to me (we have been together now for 4 yrs) knowing that it would be a bad start with that kind of secret between us. I had known something was going on and now I still don't completely trust him, but I do love him and he is still kicking himself for his stupidity and now believes me when I tell him I love him. He has wanted to get past it if i can and has become an open book with not only his life, but also his feelings. So I guess if he has no reason not to trust you and you have reason to doubt him, my guess is he is not being honest and you should go with your gut feeling. If he really loves you then he will be willing to talk it through (calmly without running away). I wish you the best of luck and hope I was able to give you some insight.
2006-10-04 04:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is wanting to move on with his life , you should let him do this. If this other girl is just a friend, then the conversation would not be innappropriate. Don't take any excuses, sounds like he has a violent streak in him also. So my advice is tell him it is over, to go on with his life. Be safe though, he could hurt you. Get the help you may need to do this. If he is blaming you for everything, then he is the guilty one. Be strong and get a man that will be true and love you. Love does not send innappropriate emails to other women, and sure does not break doors down, that is pure selfish behavior. Good Luck
2006-10-04 04:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ginger M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that he thought your were crazy, but believe me, when things like that go through your head and you are trying to confront them about it, and they seem not to care, its all you have to do, to really not go crazy, he's lucky that's all you did. Crazy is just the start of what a woman feels like doing after something of that matter.
If all the info you said is true, get over him, he must be cheating, cheaters run away when confronted with the issue, non cheaters would stay to prove themselves, find someone with more respect than that! Good luck and take care!
2006-10-04 03:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he can't trust you, meanwhile you are the one that can't trust him. He is trying to turn the tables around to make you look like the "bad guy," which is not right at all. He will never change. The answer to this is very simple. You either stay with him and go through this as long as your with him, or you leave and make yourself happy. I know it would be hard to leave him if you love him, but If he loves you he would be thinking about your feelings and he definitely wouldn't blame you for his problems. Do you want to be with and love someone who doesn't love you?
2006-10-04 03:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon....you shouldn't have wanted to call the cops. That was unneccesary. He is running away from his problems so let him run. You'll both be better off. If he's talking to other girls like that it could or may have already lead to something. So stop now before you get hurt any worse than you are now. Don't talk to him. He's trying to push you away so that you'll leave him. Give him what he wants then. Leave him. He is not trustworthy.
2006-10-04 03:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
checking phones thats a reason of not trusting one another...i had an ex who talked to other girls like that i confronted him since the phone was actually in my name i thought hey i had a right to know he told me he was bored and just talked to them cuz he liked what they said maybe he just wanted to hear you talk dirty with him a little more than you do..guys are weird they seem to mess things up that are going good for them cuz they suddenly realize they can do better but it never really turns out better for them in the long run and they kick themselves in the ***
2006-10-04 03:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it is time to move along. All things escalate - and your situation has a small bit of violence in it. That will escalate. Besides that, clearly he is not the type of man you want in your life as is demonstrated by his 'other affairs.' Lastly, to start ones day with such unpleasant events is hardly the way to happiness.
2006-10-04 03:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! Once a cheater always a cheater. He is not gonna change. Face the fact that he is not in love with you or that into you if he is disrespecting you like that. You deserve better. Really, give it a shot, you'll see and he'll be sorry.
2006-10-04 03:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by shakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump Him Quick
He wants you you and anyone else he can get in the sack too.
You don't need it.
One bit of advice though, it sounds like he has anger and control issues so get a restraining order or you'll end up regretting it.
2006-10-04 03:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty obvious you're BOTH done. Don't waste time or drama on this absolute loser. Too many GOOD trustworthy men out there....REALLY! Too much b.s. on his side.....he is totally trying to put the blame on you so he won't feel so bad and can tell his li'l crappy friends it was all your fault. Waste NO MORE TIME on him!
2006-10-04 03:42:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋