Snap out of it!!! lol Please tell me how to combat baby fever!? A girl my family & I know just had her little boy last night,& my mom called saying that she'd called her& saying that the girl slept with her baby in her arms last night, &how he is already spoiled. And my mom is helping her come up with a middle name for the baby, &everything. I'm so jealous!!!! I'm in my early twenties,& in Graduate school. I'm about the only one left without a child out of the people I grew up with. I have a bf,& he is more than ready for a baby. The thing is, his career is already set&he is in his late twenties&a lot more settled than I am. I've been taking every precaution to avoid pregnancy, but lately, i've been getting these urges... lol It's weird. Is that my biological clock? I'm not ready for a child, but I can't help but think that the extra two years Graduate school will take is going to hold me back from the experience. Tell me something that will make me snap out of it!?
2006-10-04 03:26:33 · 25 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
How about your biological clock shouldn't be ticking in your early twenties..lol. Oh yeah and having a baby because everyone else has one isn't a good reason to have one. Education is the best gift your can give yourself and will allow you to be in a better place financially to provide for your child so finish school, you have a WHILE before your biological clock's batteries go out. Right now enjoy "take home" babies, the ones you can keep, play with, and love and then TAKE HOME at the end of the day..lol. It will happen for you when it's time.
Best Wishes!
2006-10-04 03:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish the degree. I got pregnant before finishing mine and my daughter is such a blessing but a handful so I am waiting for about another 6 months, maybe even year before going back. My sister is in the same boat as you. How could her little sister have a baby before her??! (I'm 26 by the way...lol in case you're wondering) But she's hellbent on waiting until her thesis is done and presented and then she's going off the pill and they'll go from there. Just let your man know that yes you want babies as well but if you could at least wait until you're finished with school it would help you guys be better prepared for what's to come. It's hard I know...I had the baby fever too and I even went to a doctor for help cause I felt so empty in my life and then my husband was involved in a bad car accident and I didn't pay attention to my birth control while showing him how grateful I was for him and the next thing we knew...I was preggo! I wouldn't change my decision for the world but yes I wish I had finished school first so that when it's time for her to start school, I can have a decent job lined up...and what will happen if something happens to my husband?? You see what I mean. It sucks but as they say, "Patience is a virtue". Good luck!
2006-10-04 10:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25. I got married young, and put my schooling/career on hold to get married. Soon after getting married, our daughter was on her way. Now she's three, and I still haven't finished school, and I've been a stay at home mom for three years. It's very hard on you emotionally. I don't regret having my daughter and I wouldn't trade her for the world. However, it would have been nice to finish school first. You don't want to end up blaming the child for what you could have done. Finish school, get married (if you choose) then have a baby. And coming from the other end of that "baby envy", just remember that all the people around you that have had children are also just as envious of your "single" lifestyle. And what's worse, is that now that my daughter is three, it's either time to have another baby, so there's not a big age gap, or go back to school/work and put more time between children. The grass is not always greener.
Good luck
2006-10-04 10:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can have your baby now when you are young and put off Graduate school...or...you can have your baby when you are older and more settled down.
Both of my sisters were married with babies when they were young (one 18 and one 16). The older sister went back to graduate school when her youngest was about 10. The other sister never did go back to school.
I had my son very late in life (40). I chose school and career first and I have no regrets.
It is all about doing what is right for you. I never, ever wanted children when I was young but both my sisters did. All my nieces and nephews are grown and married with children of their own now. My son just turned 9.
Do you want to be a young mother,a mother in her thirties, or an older mom like me?
If you want kids now then you need to really think about when is the best time for you to be a mom. Now, in another 10 years or in 20 years?
Babies are great but they are a huge responsibility.
2006-10-04 10:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in graduate school, stick w/ it. a baby will only prolong things or make it nearly impossible for you to go back. it will be so much better and easier once you are married and have your career on the right track. babies are a round the clock job and you truly do not realize it until you actually have a baby. please wait to do things the right way. be happy for the girl you know who just had a baby instead of jealous, cause your time will come too when you and your mom will share the same experiences, only it will be more special because you are mother and daughter. and you will be so happy to be able to say you did it the right way.
2006-10-04 10:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Peanuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a baby doll and for one week treat it as if it's a real baby. Every time you want to go somewhere you must take the baby or arrange to leave it with someone. A baby is a lot of responsibility and that responsibility continues for at least 18 years and sometimes longer. Enjoy your youth and have a baby after you settle down.
2006-10-04 10:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by myste 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend if you could baby sit for her maybe one night of getting up every 2 hours changing , feeding , burping , and so on will make you think twice . Those extra two years of graduate school are going to help you to raise a child not hold you back .
2006-10-04 10:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, babysit for a night, you'll wake up so tired you'll probably be cured. On the other hand if you might love it, so than why not have a baby? I've got two and I'm going to college for nursing. It's hard but not impossible, besides it sounds as though you have a supportive family who could always lend a helping hand. Good luck on whatever you decide.
2006-10-04 11:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're thinking as a mother, all your thoughts change from what's best for you to what's best for your children. And the thing that would definitely be best for your children is for you to A) have a husband and B) have your graduate's degree so that you can provide the very best for your child. I'm not talking best financially, I'm talking best stability.
A boyfriend is a wonderful thing, but a husband is better, providing a more stable environment for the children. Also, a married couple is ten times as likely to stay together rather than one outgrowing the other in the relationship and leaving. Doesn't sound like progressive 21st century womanhood? It is -- recogizing truth as truth is about as progressive as it gets.
Your biological clock won't even begin to wind down till you hit your mid 30s, so your clock isn't ticking so loudly that you can't drown out the sound.
You sound like you're gonna be a fantastic mommy, so start acting like one now -- the kind of mommy who finishes college to teach her children that an education will take them farther than the moon in life. Teach your children to be paient and to do things in order by having a husband and father who is committed to both you and them. Teach them perseverence by working for the things you want and reaching your goals rather than just tossing in the towel of tomorrow for what you want today.
Be jealous for children. God says that children are a blessing from the Lord, and it is a righteous desire to want children, and you will have them, but wait. Let the desire of those children, and the desire to give them the very best shot in life spur you on to greatness so that you can spur them on to greatness. They are like little arrows that you will shoot out into the world, so practice hitting your targets now so that when you do shoot them out, they will go far.
Be the good mommy that you already want to be and wait.
Rebecca
2006-10-04 10:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, ok, I have kids and I'm in my mid-twenties. I didnt finish school and I regret that now. I can not give my kids everything that I would like to because I was not settled when I had them. Now, I do not regret having them, because now that they are here, I would never want to lose them. BUT, live your life first, because after the kids, its so hard to do everything you set out to do before them. Finish graduate school, and everytime you get that itch, remember that once you're done, you will be able to provide your family with so much more in life. You will be able to get them in better schools, take them on vacations, etc. FINISH SCHOOL OK, NOW SNAP OUT OF IT~lol. Good luck!
2006-10-04 10:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋