I ask this because I am 48 years and my children are grow. And the man that I am very interested has several children under 18. His youngest son being 14 and was born with some challenges which makes him mentally immature. And will always have a very immature mind. Well, my friend feels that whatever his son asks for he should get and whenever his son wants to come and spend time with his father it is fine. Even when his father has made plans with me. I am suppose to understand, because after all this is his child. When I try to talk to him about this he gets very defensive. Unforunately, this is the same argument that we had two years ago and we stopped communicating. And made me feel that I do not want to date any men with children. And we have tried to re-kindle our relationship. But I am running into the same problem we had before. So I feel that men with children are major problems and I do not see any benefit in dating them.
2006-10-04 02:55:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 25 and my sis is 22 and my mom has been with her boy friend for 12 years, and he has 2 kids with another woman one is 13 and one is 12, and these kids are holy terrors, my mom is in her mid 40's and she is soooo stressed out. this should be the most relaxing time of her life, so i say, no dont date men with children younger than yours. it is way to stressful on you when you should be having a great time.
2006-10-04 03:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man that had two kids and I had one, then we had one together. Hardest thing I have ever done is raise his children. I'm only 29 and the children are all under the age of 8. But from this experience I say run like hell!!
2006-10-04 03:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Need Help! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are NOT wrong. I can understand completely. People with children period (not just men) have baggage. Ex's etc. I can say this because i was one of those people (baggage) I was a young divorced mom. I dated alot of men. most of which wanted me, not my son. I finally found a man who loved us both. BUT if i had no kids and hd no baggage, then hell no, i would not date a man with kids. who wants more aggervation. you know the ex is gonna be a real pain. My ex sure is and now is new wife is a bigger you know what. find someone else girl!
2006-10-04 03:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I have no children but I feel that dating a man who does is hard because they have a resposibility to them first. At my age 38 most men I date would have children and I'm not to crazy about it. But I know that if he wants to spend time with his kids that shows me alot about his personality. WE want the total package but when it's not our way, that goes out the window. I guess we should be lucky these men love there kids. Wouldn't you do anything for yours? No matter ther age? Good Luck
2006-10-04 03:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never fall back to the same person, things or shall I say men never change and you have to accept them for who they are or find someone else. That's your choice not to date men with children under the age of 18, but now a days that's hard to find because most of these men can't keep their magic stick in their pants, and always forget about their jimmy hat!!!!!
2006-10-04 03:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by DSPARKLE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
you are not wrong
You want a date.. some fun... a life.....not a mothering position
He obviously puts his kids first... actually a good trait in a man or woman..and he has a son with special needs to boot...
This is not the time for a romance with this man... you either are in with this situation or you move on....
I'd move on
2006-10-04 03:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. My mother finally got ride of her 3 children and the thought of her being with a guy who had younger kids again would make me mad. This is her time to make herself happy and be selfish. She deserves it after raising us!
2006-10-04 02:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've pretty much answered your own question. No. you are not wrong by any means. You know exactly what you want. Don't settle for less.
2006-10-04 02:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by gotcookies? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋