When my husband & I got together he had 2 girls I had 1. We also have added 1. My mother in law has always told me how she will always favor the older one of his girls. His dad does the same to his younger one. MIL told me she hated me & wanted to kill me. She also said she hated my daughter. I called the police & it was dropped in court because I had no proof. She also told hubby this after the court date. She admitted herself in the Psych ward for a week. We didn't speak for almost a year. It has now been about 6mo since we started talking again. She said all this because she raised his kids. Their mother is a piece of crap. Then when we moved in together "I took them away" & so forth. My husband never stood up for himself or his children. Then I came along & he decided he wanted to be more involved with the kids. He started standing up to them for his kids & for me. Now things are going slowly back the way they were. Hell for me. Any advice?
2006-10-04 02:45:16 · 7 answers · asked by Need Help! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow sounds like you landed ringt in looney ville with her, you just need to stand your ground with her and dont ever ever let her get any thing over you ,you make your hubby stand up for you also ,nutty people are scarey and can be really a pain in the butt so keep your guard up all the time
good luck with this
2006-10-04 02:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay as far away from her as possible. Speak to her only if you have to. As long as your hubby knows what is going on and can see for himself then things will get back to the way you are used to. You have a wonderful new family unit and it needs to prosper and grow together without outside psychotics. I hope all goes well. Making sure the family does activities as a whole like team building will strengthen the relationship between everyone.
2006-10-04 02:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by aquagirl125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships will never improve and therefore, you have to cut your losses. I would suggest that you sever relationship with your mother in law however, dont discourage your husband from maintaining a relationship with his mother if he chooses to do so. When you have to be in their company, be very polite, but keep your distance. The less contact with this unstable woman, the better. (Avoid criticizing her to your husband. Just avoid the subject entirely...remove yourself) You cannot change her behaviour, but you can change your response to her behaviour. Good luck.
2006-10-04 02:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it is easy to tell her to back off different than her son. If he won't be in a position to withstand her and take your area once you're in basic terms dating, then you truthfully would desire to run for the hills! we've had worry with my mil over the years, too, yet thank goodness my husband stands up for me. He did not get up for his first spouse, and she or he have been given drained the crap his mom surpassed out. i won't be in a position to declare she did not warn me! You do comprehend the MS will bypass via instances whilst it could get very undesirable and then get somewhat extra helpful. She is probable extra depressed than bipolar. bypass to a number of her surgeon appointments along with her and enable her surgeon understand whilst character alterations ensue. i'm specific there'll be instances once you purely lose it along with her. take a seat and clarify to her which you have a brief fuse and if push you will blow up. additionally tell her that it does not mean you think of any much less of her, however the disappointment in basic terms takes over at instances. solid luck is all i'm able to assist you to realize. purely sons won't be in a position to help how their mothers act. of course, the mothers think of they are in a position to't help it the two.
2016-12-15 19:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by rivalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that your husband needs to take care of. He needs to protect his family from anyone (including his parents) who well destroy their happiness.
2006-10-04 02:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go near them let them visit you and if they start remind them whose house it is and you dont need to take it in your house you can ask them to leave
2006-10-04 03:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Freakyfran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN FAMILY IS TOXIC, THAT GIVES YOU EVERY RIGHT TO STAY AWAY.
2006-10-04 03:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋