A qestion?
A survey also...
2006-10-04 02:28:37 · 38 answers · asked by MIssalli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like him/her and its not a fling kinda thing
2006-10-04 02:32:24 · update #1
I think everyone has their own time frame...some people need to wait to see if they want to give something that special to someone others dont care...you have to decide when the time is right...if you feel 100% comfortable...not because society tells you something.
2006-10-04 02:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by laguna_beach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have been married for 10 years, but when we first starting dating, we were together everyday, I don't know if all of those days were considered dates, but we waited until the 17th day, don't really know why, just did. I don't think there is a rule about it, but I do know many girls do it on the first date, personally I think you should at least give it 10 dates, at least show the guy you have some respect and are not there just to have sex (unless you really are) Take care and have a nice day!
2006-10-04 02:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how lightly or strong-heartedly you take sex. Sex is a big step, whether it be a one night stand or love making. Me & my boyfriend were together a month before we had sex. I know some that wait longer & some that jump right into it after 3 dates. I guess it is whatever is comfortable for you & makes you happy. Everyone has their own way with dealing with that sort of thing. Make are you two thinking about getting together or you are just casually dating? Talk it over. Be adults about it. Some things are last minute, some are a life time. Just do whats right & comfortable for you.
2006-10-04 02:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are dating for sex then it would be the very first day. If only one is dating for sex then it would take a few more days . If both are not wanting sex then it would take a pretty long time and may also occur only after marriage.
2006-10-04 02:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different. There are things to factor in, are you comfortable with the person enough to be intimate, does that person have feelings for you and isn't just looking for sex.
I waited with my husband and he learned to respect me. He told me after we were married, that he just wanted some action, but when I wouldn't give it up, he realized I was a keeper, cause I have good values and self respect.
Hey I got used once, I told myself then, that it would never happen again and holding out for a little bit, weeded out the users and landed me a decent husband!
Good luck!
2006-10-04 02:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on your values and morals as a person. It is usually around 8 months to a year for me. Although i had always told myself that i wanted to wait until I got married, but in this day and age that is kind of hard and there is so much pressure focused on having sexual relations with ppl. My first was my hus but we were not married yet at that time. He is my one and only.
2006-10-04 02:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by baby j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give it a couple of months - relationships that start with sex hardly ever work out - make sure you really like the person - & that they feel the same about you - spend time with them in a lot of different ways (clubs, dinner, movies, day time dates, friends) to make sure you share the same interests - sometimes that initial feeling of infatuation/lust fades after a few months, so it's better to wait to make sure the feelings are still there - it will make the sex that much more meaningful.
2006-10-04 02:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb, I generally would wait about 5 or 6. You would want to really get to know the person. If you can get to know them in that 5 or 6, then that is great. It's not always the case. I think the true answer is, of course, whenever there is a mutual feeling of being comfortable.
2006-10-04 02:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by davy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Quit jumping into sex so quickly. Wait until you are both ready. If he really cares about you he will not mind waiting. Sex is, in my opinion, for people in love, not just in lust. If you start too early it can screw up the relationship by making everything about sex.
2006-10-04 02:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by dicanus1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..sex is a non verbal activity. So a kiss might lead to a touch then to sex....
People dont even ask these days. So it just happens and you get STD, unwanted babies...bla bla bla ....you also get regret...and that....guilt and all of the things you wish you never had...
Then again sex is good. It's a big part of life. How would it change your life? i woulnt know but if you choose to do it..go ahead...no one is stopping you.
Whatever makes you happy.....
Sex has no time....
Sex is just sex you know.
Thanks fo r the points. Need it.
2006-10-04 02:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋