I believe love costs the giver much but does it always pain the receiver too? Does it cost them as much? Your opinions please?
2006-10-04 02:24:38 · 12 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes love is good and kind but love brings pain. A mother faces pain to bring her child into this world. Is that not love? Sometimes love causes another pain too.
2006-10-04 02:32:16 · update #1
i have no answer to your question.
after reading your query, i am left with more questions....(which now that i think of it may have been your intent all along...)
My thoughts....(opinions?)
Define the words Love, and pain (feel)...
those words will hold different meanings as a person lives his or her life...
does the "love" i have for my ex wife and child, and the pain i "feel" when i think of their absence, have a common ground.
Or are the emotions i experience "envy" (pain) and self pity (love)...
Do i believe "they" hurt as much as i? is the feeling i call "love" actually Love.
Love is a gift//// (really?)
if so...define gift...
Offering a gift is mute unless the recipient realizes their opportunity to receive... The gift must be made known.
What is love....Giving and never taking away?
NO.
sometimes things must be taken away, in order for one to realize a gift had been offered....
what is pain?
Pain. deep true pain.
for me it was coming to the grips with the fact that love was offered... and I did nothing.. nothing, but watch it slip away.
i have not answered your question....but i have asked myself some new ones...
2006-10-04 16:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it IS possible to love another person without causing constant pain. If there was no "nice" side to love, who would want it?
The question that needs to be asked is, "What is the purpose or function of this pain?" Pain is actually a signal. "Something is wrong here". The same nerves that react with pain when you step on a Lego, will tell you "OUCH" if you have surgery to remove a large wart from your foot. The Lego is harmful, the surgery is a corrective, but both cause pain.
Emotional pain can be judged the same way. WHY is this painful action being taken? Is it done in a spirit of love, or of selfishness? The trick here is to avoid the deceptions of "whitewashing" actions that are actually harmful. Rape, murder, and adultery, for example, are always evil, no matter how many "noble" reasons are suggested for it.
2006-10-04 09:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are both giver and receiver..To answer someone above, there is forever in Love..No beginning there will be no end.. When I said that I love you I meant I would Love you forever (forever is gonna start tonight),,
It most likely causes the receiver pain (although it is not the giver causing the pain..?!) but not to the point where they cannot take it. Nothing comes that you cannot handle and when Love is finally found, the pain and sorrow will, like the pain of giving birth (they say, i dunno), be forgotten.. This is where we need to believe we will find Love and He will keep His promise...
I do always have to think about my heavy experience and the guidance He gives me.. Here is another Prince song about His love for us..(the other is ego mind again, we left Him) Let Him guide you to the purple rain. And when the rain begins to fall...Sooo praying for rain here. Any time now, please let it be soon..(everyone light a candle, somewtimes it is clearer than prayer..)
http://freelyrics.virtuale.org/Prince_purple-rain.htm
Love
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PS I think the almosts are the most painful, the sooo close, the almost had it all ones. I know He does not put me through what I cannot handle, yet sometimes I feel He is overestimating me then/// (ohoh better hang this one up)
2006-10-04 10:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise Regained 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really because sometimes to show that you really love the person you may have to do things that the person does not really agree with.
An extreme example would be dying to save a loved one's life (deadly childbirth, sacrifice under persecution, combat in war, home invasion, etc.). Even if you saved that person's life, he/she will still have to deal with losing you...which obviously entails pain.
A more commonplace and less dramatic example would be when you deny a person you love something because you think its bad (whether it be an expensive toy for a child or deny that extra drink to a friend who's excessively drunk).
In the end it will be sufficient to say everything in this world has a price to be paid... nothing is ever really free.
2006-10-04 09:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by betterdeadthansorry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First Corinthians chapter 13 talks about love. Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury...If everyone showed this type of love, there would be a lot less pain. Those showing it are aware of and acknowledge life's disappointments and pains, but they do not allow these to destroy their love for others. Such love truly is "a perfect bond of union."
However, having that type of love takes effort. It is something we have to learn, and it is not easy to do in the world we live in.
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/7/1/article_02.htm
2006-10-04 09:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by izofblue37 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey. Hope you are feeling OK Debra. Love is something that has no rules. So yes, hurt is possible but so is great joy, for all involved. The safest 'love' is Universal love, the most risky 'love' is personal love between two people. But in 'love' there is no ALWAYS.
2006-10-04 09:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you're trying to sound deep, but what are you talking about? Maybe you should ask God how much your love for him is causing him pain. I must be stupid, cause I don't get it. Love is good, love is always good, love is patient, kind...
2006-10-04 09:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by WHITE TRASH ARMENIAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm ok
i think when we love
we share our live with our lovers
and our lives have many different moments
happy joy sad mad anger depreesion
so
they will have all of these with us or with me
it's some times we hide our pain to let them happy
but this happienies cuz by covering the truth will disappear fastley
but the pain some times is sweet
if u use yahoo messenger
u will find in
audibles
choose flirt
the rose is saying
she loves me not
she loves me
she loves me not
she loves me
at the end saying
love is hurt
yes it is
but we enjoy this love
we enjoy this pain
________
i hope i showed my poing of veiw
2006-10-04 09:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by ashrf6581 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. please understand where I am going with this. we have never met yet in a sense " I love you. " you are here expressing your wisdom and knowledge through questions and answers and in return are receiving wisdom and knowledge the exchange provides a friendship among people who may never meet and friendship is a form of love. inadvertently I may hurt your feelings as you may mind but when we respect each others right to free will to believe as we each see fit the hurt should be short lived.
2006-10-04 09:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There will always be pain in this world no matter what. That is just the way it is.
2006-10-04 09:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋