My 5 year old has just started talking in class and is getting in trouble for it!!!! He is always a good kid!!! Never gets in trouble and always does what he is told to do, but the last 2 weeks he has gotten in trouble twice for not following directions!!! Anyone have any suggestion on what might be causing this!!! Oh, by the way my husband has been working out of town during the week, home on weekends for the last few months!!! Could this be the cause for him acting out??
2006-10-04 02:20:13 · 10 answers · asked by housewives5 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My son (8) was having the same problems. The teachers were putting him seperate so he wouldnt talk and they said he just kept misbehaving. I thought this a little odd because he is a really good kid and good in school-never been in trouble. The same thing happened from 1st to the end of 2nd grade. Well, school just started again, and I talked to his new teacher about it, and she said she was going to recommend him for an advanced program at school. He tests high academically and he is talking a misbehaving, because he is bored. He gets his work done and then has nothing to do while the other kids are still doing their work. So, he is going into the program, and the teacher lets him keep a book in his desk so that when he gets done with stuff before the other kids, he can just pull it out and read quietly. So far, school has been in for about 6 weeks, and he hasnt had a problem yet! Maybe you need to talk to the teacher about his scores and such and see if they have any ideas to keep him busy and not bad.
2006-10-04 07:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by holly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be a cause of the trouble- most of the time any kind of sudden change in the household that the child don't understand or don't know how to deal with will cause them to react in unusual ways or could be he made friends w/ someone who is trouble and he is following his friend. Might find out if teacher can tell you anything else about what is going on in class - any other kind of trouble he might be having such as starting to fidget in seat or using other children's things without permission or anything else out of the ordinary. If so - could be other issues. Might also try to talk to him about dad and see if you can get a feel of how much it bothers him that dad is gone. Might be too that he is just now getting comfortable being at school ( not new anymore) and not sure when to socialize and when not to and will take a bit to understand the appropriate time and why.
2006-10-04 09:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by angela w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what I hear is that he only got in trouble a couple of times at kindergarten level. My boy was the same way last year, always wanting to talk during quiet time. The first offense of the day is always name on the board and then they move up, He is now in first grade and has had a couple of times for talking and I take it that this is his personality. He is an open and talkative person that he just needs to learn when to talk and not. The teachers have all dealt with these types of kids and that is why the system is set up the way it is.
2006-10-04 10:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by anton_29207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be, but I would talk to the teacher and determine if a seating change is needed. My 10 y.o. has always been notorious for talking in class, so we ended up seating her with the boys!! Sounds mean, but it worked. Also, her 2nd grade teacher would separate her and move her seat to the front of the classroom. Alos, volunteer to come in the classroom for a day, or a few hours at least. Watch how the kids interact. He might be copying another kid he thinks is 'cool', or just trying to get attention. Make sure at home at nigth that you giv ehim 15-20 mins of pure undivided attention every night. I know this is tough to do (cuz I have 4 kids!!) but it can help him realize his is loved, and make him feel more secure. Good luck!!!
2006-10-04 09:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by spsininsky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby being away may well be a contributing factor. Make sure you give your'e son lots of attention in the evenings. Discuss his behaviour with him and ask him why he thinks he is acting out at school. Tell him the teacher has a lot of kids to watch over and he needs to follow the rules just like everybody else so that things can get done. Kids new to the school environment generally test the ground for a few weeks. The teacher has to help you sort this out...at the end of the day it is her responsibility and she will have consequences for behaviour. If things get worse I am sure the school has a policy that they will follow. Dont get your back up...try to help them...tell him he will also loose privelages at home if he doesnt learn to behave and follow school rules...like no tv...no playing out with friends and earlier to bed. Im sure things will settle down..be patient. I have the opposite problem some times...my 6 year old is an angel at school and drives me nuts at home with his constant humour and need to make people laugh! Think I may have the next Jim Carrey on my hands! Im trying desperately to not alter his personality....taking away privelages has totally helped me. I have worked with children for 20 years....and had lots of practice on other peoples kids! For this I am grateful.. Good luck..hang in there...
2006-10-04 10:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 7 and he is having the same problem. My husband was away for a week or so but I don't think that is the reason. I just take away things from my child. Last week he couldn't use our computer or watch T.V. all week. After about 1 week and 2 days, yesterday he came home with a good report. It seemed to work taking special privileges away. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 09:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes children act like that at school because they are trying to figure out their identity. They try new things because they are in a new environment, they are just testing the limits. It also could be because his father is not home like normal. Some kids don't like change, especially if it is a important person in their life.
2006-10-04 13:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It very well might be but you also sound like add but you said its only been for 2 weeks and he always does good. so this could be a result of dad being away. But dont let him get away with it. time outs. try to talk to your son about his feelings. i know he is 5 and it may be hard but try because he may feel better and stop acting out.
2006-10-04 09:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by four2love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a couple of reasons. First, hubby being gone could cause it. Talk to him, see if you can get him to talk to you about his feelings. See if your husband can call more so he can talk to him more through the week. Second, could be that work is too easy and maybe hes gettin bored in school. So he talks.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-04 09:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by sensual_sweet1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any changes of environment can upset child's routine--usually settle into it; could be distracted in classroom by other activity-explain he can help the teacher by listening and doing work when it is time to work, that talking is not helping unless teacher says ok
2006-10-04 09:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋