im sorry this is so long but i need advice now!!there is this guy well man. im f15 and he is 30, ive almost known him a year now. he has told me to flash him. he told me he liked this shirt i wore befor e because it was low cut when i bent over. and i wore one shirt that didnt show anything and he said that he didnt like it and i should where low cut shirts more often. him and my dad are good friends and i know him from a rescue squad so i dont want to say anything or he will be kicked out and the squad is more important. they need volunteers. but he makes me really uncomfortable. and when someones else is around he asks why im so mad. just cause i dont want to talk to him. he is married with a 10 year old kid. . my dad is in the squad and im involved to. completely avoiding him is not an option. what can i do.
2006-10-04 01:44:18 · 34 answers · asked by southern_beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know I usually I like to give off the cuff sarcastic answers to peoples questions. This isn't a case where I can do that.
The answer is yes, what he's doing is wrong and inappropriate, as I'm sure everyone else is telling you as well. You should, no matter how uncomfortable it is, tell your parents or some other adult you trust. Don't wait. This type of behavior is dangerous. Even if he never did or would do anything to you, he might to someone in the future. Don't wait! Tell an adult!
2006-10-04 01:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to answer your question, yes it *is* sexual harassment, no question about it.
As for what you should do, I would first tell him that what he is doing is sexual harassment, that it makes you *very* uncomfortable and he needs to stop it so that you don't have to take it further to either his supervisors or your father.
I know you feel that the squad is more important , but remember too that if you don't say anything he could very well go on to sexually harass other girls and they might quit and then the squad suffers more than just the loss of one person. Also, it's entirely possible that the man needs real help, and maybe he will end up getting some before he does something none of us want to hear about in the news.
Do yourself and every other girl a favor and don't ignore this. If he is just being some kind of lowlife and can control it, fine, make sure he does so with you. If he can't control it then tell whoever needs to be told so that no one else suffers and maybe he will get help.
Good luck.
2006-10-04 01:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Akane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From your description, this guy is definitely a danger..to you and probably to any other girl.
You should tell your dad. If you think that he won't listen or won't believe (which may happen since this guy is his friend), your mom is the next person.
If you can't tell either of your parents, go to a relative..aunt or uncle.. that you can trust, or a trusted teacher, your minister, or the police.
If you go to the cops, be prepared for a lot of questions but there will be some action.
If you are in a city large enough to have something like a "special victims unit", that is the department to speak to.
Whatever you decide to do, DO IT QUICKLY!
2006-10-04 01:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad or your mother or someone else in the rescue squad, he is being really inappropriate, he is 30 and you are a minor..don't be scared your dad loves you alot more than he loves this guy and would want to know if anyone is making you feel threatened or frightened
2006-10-04 01:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by loopytoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to say something to your dad. Other girls probably feel the same way about him.. He sounds creepy, and the squad can find one more volunteer. They probably do not want someone like that on the squad anyway.
2006-10-04 01:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the squad and the fact that this asshole is your dad's friend. (Way to go, dad, great taste in friends you have there. But I digress.)
Report this piece of slime to the police immediately. If you are not comfortable about going to the police by yourself, tell a teacher or counsellor at your school.
He is a predator, and if you don't put a stop to his antics now, not only could you be in danger of sexual assault, but so could any number of other innocent victims, including his own 10-year old. This is serious, do not wait.
2006-10-04 01:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is, and yes you should tell your father. Don't worry about what consequences he'll face, and the rescue squad can always get new volunteers. Don't feel guilty, you'd be doing the right thing all around.
2006-10-04 01:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by freyas_kin28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does a panda must do with sexual harassment? when you ship a massive panda to a institution to speak to children don't seem to be they gonna harass it with all of the grabbing, hugs, and kisses?
2016-08-29 08:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! forget about the squad, u should tell some one before he tries to do something to u, by then no 1 will belive u since u took so long to tell them wat he was doing. how can he be married to a freakin 10 yr old. this guy is a perv and ur dad needs to kick his ***
2006-10-04 01:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by emaria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is sexual harassment. You really need to talk to your Dad about this man and how he makes you feel uncomfortable. Do your best to never be alone with this man.
2006-10-04 01:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by sm2f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋