I became single last year when I moved to Uni in London. Here everyboday is so busy to their work. And I find it hard to bump into groups and join chatting. I don't have the opportunity to chat with peple/someone in a quiet place. So I feel very lonely. I am also a charming, caring boy.
Also any free friend finder website?
2006-10-04 01:27:32 · 15 answers · asked by Ramesh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Deafness gets misdiagnosed on those personality exams, the results come back we're introverted. For me, it was learning public speaking and I really have to practice before I give presentations.
If you want to meet the fair sex, look for a church that offers supper socials. Volunteer to help on the serving line. That way, you're looking prospects right in the eye.
It is hard work to join in conversations. Sadly, the world treats the hard of hearing as dull-witted. However, I'll have you know, Thomas Edison would fire employees that wanted to chit-chat as Mr. Edison was always self-absorbed, intently working.
Look for smaller groups, clubs. Use your eyes. I bet you observe more than the "normal" people. Take a night class in something your interested in (but not computers).
Never be afraid to talk, on the job or at the social scene. Let be known you have some loss, tell them it isn't a matter of how loud a volume the conversation needs to be, but rather they should catch your attention so you can focus better.
F*ck the web sites. They're mostly a sham. Try some of the chat programs but be aware it is 9 dudes to 1 chic.
Good luck my friend.
2006-10-04 01:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm completely deaf in my left ear and have been since birth. I understand how hard it can be to join in group conversations in loud places when you can't filter through all the noise to hear what's going on. However, I've never really found this to be an issue with making friends. I'd say the bigger problem here is living in London and being slightly shy. It is a very hard place to meet people and most socialising is done in noisy places which doesn't help. But there are quieter places where you can meet people - are there any societies at the university that you could join? Any clubs or hobbies that you could pursue where you could meet like-minded people? You really do have to put yourself out there - I know it can be difficult but it is worthwhile. I've made some great friends down here and I'm sure you will too.
And I have not, and never will consider myself "handicapped" - it's merely an inconvenience that can be overcome.
2006-10-04 08:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ramesh.
I am also hearing handicapp man like u . But I am not deaf coz I wear hearing aids. Net is very useful communication tool for making friends. But mostly r time pass. But of course I cannot tell u whose of ur net friends r time pass and whose r very good friends of urs. Remember when u cann't hear propelry a person then request him to speak loudly and clearly for u. So this simple request will solve all ur big problems.
Bye! Have A Nice Life.
Yours Subhtantik,
cuteguy
2006-10-04 08:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound exactly like me. (yes even the hearing loss) Don't try to be like everyone else, be yourself, find a good friend, even just one person and by doing that you will meet a lot more people. if you are in school, thats easy just find someone in any of your classes ans start talking, but if you're not in school, then go to some hang out or coffee a shop/bar and start talking. people like other people that are able to go up to other people and start a friendly conversation.
2006-10-04 08:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by kingfoot7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give up, anyone with a disablity such as yours is destined to live out their life in misery and lonliness....
Either that or get out and get involved in things. Get a hobby, join a club, go where the people are, become a regular at a local coffee shop, interact with people. Best bet is to find people with similar interests as yourself, so go to places that you like to go and see who's there.
2006-10-04 08:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you speak to your student support service.. they should be able to put you intouch with a local community group in your area...
If not you could try your local institute for the deaf... it also helps people who have hearing problems and not just deaf people.
2006-10-04 08:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person that is handicapped with with anything ,does not reflect his or her inner self. Please feel free to join in with groups and let them know up front about your dissability . If they hold that against you, then you don't want them as friends anyway. Be proud of yourself for what you are.
2006-10-04 08:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by rookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ramesh, dont worry. So many Indians R in london, they will keep U company
2006-10-04 08:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your personality is what makes freinds. I know a girl that has been completely deaf her whole life, and she has freinds..she is an awesome girl, and people realize that when they meet her.
2006-10-04 08:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
while at a coffee shop ... "accidentally" bump into someone and then begin a conversation. or sit down with someone at lunch. Just be yourself!
2006-10-04 08:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Daisie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋