As some know, I've been dealing with a serious question about my faith in Love:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AplCsXwX8U2KXAyRXd528TZIzKIX?qid=20061001051119AAXjvuV
I've been looking at how others view Love, and now I'm wondering if I've had it all wrong, and Love is trying to steer me right.
Bear in mind the following does not reflect the views of all, and certainly do not reflect my previous beliefs. Now I'm not so sure if I'm called upon to change my beliefs to more closely match the following:
Love is not about "you, you, you"...it's about "me me me".
Love is not about trusting you...it's about using you to get what I want.
Love is not about truth and honesty...they just get in the way of getting what I want.
Love is not about giving, it is about getting.
Love is not about worrying about you...if I use you up I'll just get another lover (there are so many to replace you).
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2006-10-04 01:19:56 · 8 answers · asked by bobkgin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Love is not about giving you my time and attention...it's about putting you on a shelf until I feel the need for a pleasurable diversion.
Love is not about me living up to my promises...it's about you living up to yours.
Love is not about committment...it's about dumping you the minute I feel the urge.
Love is not about communication...I'll talk to you when I feel like it, not when you feel like it.
Love is not about romance...unless romance is what it takes to get what I want.
Love is selfish...selflessness is for masochists and the naive.
Love is pain-free...life's too short to bother with anyone who causes me pain.
Love is about keeping more than one person on the hook...you never know when I'll need an alternate.
Love is about encouraging competition...nothing like a bidding war to get the most out of several someones at the same time.
2006-10-04 01:20:22 · update #1
These are some of the lessons some people have tried to teach me about Love over the years (again, some people, not all people). I've always rejected these lessons, but given the current dilemma (see link, above), I wonder whether the standard of Love I've just described is more recognizable and less likely to generate feelings of inadequacy in others than the Love I've known and believed in for so many years.
Comments?
2006-10-04 01:20:42 · update #2
If we put our love in something or somebody in this material world, we will always be frustrated. The only person who can fully reciprocate our love is Krishna, the Supreme Personality of Godhead. He will never leave you. He will never exploit you. He will never leave you frustrated. He will never use you to achieve something selfish, because He is full in Himself. He will give you the most attention and care at every minute. He will make all arrangements for your perfect happiness, if only you agree to accept His love.
In this material world what is called love is simply lust. Real love exists on the spiritual platform, when we love the Supreme Personality of Godhead and other living beings only in relationship with Him.
If you are ready to give your love to Krishna, here is how: you have to chant these names with love and devotion:
Hare Krishna, Hare Krishna, Krishna Krishna, Hare Hare
Hare Rama, Hare Rama, Rama Rama, Hare Hare
If you do so, you will never be frustrated in your love ever again. Just love Krishna, love His devotees and everything in relationship with Him. You will be absolutely amazed what happens.
2006-10-04 01:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by H. B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you know that love is none of those things, I really think you need therapy.
I have a strong feeling that you are one of those really smart people who over analyzes everything. Love isn't something that can be analyzed and put in a box. It is free and open and works differently for every person.
Not everyone wants to be treated the same and that's not to say that some want to be treated badly. You have to adjust yourself slightly to the person that you love and hope that they love you enough to adjust to you.
In your last question you say that people don't feel that they can return the love that you give to them, but is that because you bring that up to them or is that something that they come to on their own? Love shouldn't be discussed, it should just happen, if it doesn't happen then that person isn't right for you.
2006-10-04 08:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by evillyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these are the lessons that they have tried to teach I can only say I am glad you did not learn. Love is putting another first, giving until it hurts and then some more, love is doing for another what you can, love is a verb, an action, not a feeling. It is who you are not what you feel. Love is the thing that makes this life worth living.
2006-10-04 08:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are to match those requirements, I wonder why you have faith in it...
Perhaps I have a different version which may suit your purpose better:
Love is, continuous reciprocal communications of MUTUAL affection thru deeds and words.
2006-10-04 09:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by : ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a two way street and if one doesn't reciprocate with love and affection then one loves and the other may use the one loving in a selfish manner. this is not what true love is for true love has each returning the affection to each other.
2006-10-04 08:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't love with out trust. Love by it's self, cannot stear you in any dirrection, but the love of God can.
2006-10-04 08:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
1John 4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
2006-10-04 08:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by PreacherTim63(SFECU) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I have to stay functional until my mission
is complete. Then it doesn't matter.
2006-10-04 08:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by terminator 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋