I have been without a boyfriend for most of my life and now I feel that I am ready to explore the relationship world but I am torn between two side. There's is this colleague/ friend/wanna be boyfriend, successful,single and 14 yrs older than me at the same time there' a friend/wanna be boyfriend, aspiring man of my age who I love to have as company. I CAN'T date 'em both concurrently. Pls help
2006-10-04 01:18:38 · 19 answers · asked by zulusoul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think we can pick out one, based on the minimal information you give? Perhaps sticking close to your age is best, if all other things are equal, but somehow all other things are never equal.
Don't go with the younger guy just because he's younger. Don't go with the older guy just because he's "successful". Go with the one who you enjoy being around the most, and who makes your life feel the most fulfilling. I don't know which of the guys that would be; you know them way better than we do, so you'll have to make that choice yourself.
2006-10-04 01:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest it would help to know your age, but I'll assume you're at least 18, and probably in your twenties.
It all depends on what you're looking for, and really age is only a small factor. Usually older men are more mature and would be better for a long term relationship, but it's not always the case. Younger guys tend to be more spontaneous and easy-going, if not a bit superficial.
You could try going on a few casual dates with them both to get a better feel of them as partner material. If not, you'll just have to pick one. Go with your heart (and listen to your head a little too!) and you'll make the best decision for you!!
2006-10-04 01:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tough one....but let try and help ya.
Ok my advice is going to be limited because I dont know your age range. You sound like you have an open mind because you haveny shot down the older man, it sounds to me that the older man works with you in some capacity. That being said I would definately recommend you keep it real with him because you have to remember that if things dont work out once you start dating him your work environment will change. Trust me it will, it really depepnds on how much contact you have with him throughout the work day but it will be pretty awkward. I have tried to date a colleague and after a while we agreed that it was not working out but the air at work was so thick I had to quit. On the other hand you have a guy your age that you could try out. I would say try the one your age and see how it pans out, meant time you can tell the older guy your currently dating someone and if he is respectful of you he will back of but remain friends.
Good luck to ya
2006-10-04 01:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by brazilman37 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely, the older guy. They are much more mature and know how to treat a girl. I am currently in the same situation, and when u think about it, age is just a number. He is 15 years older than me but he sure knows how a lady should be treated. The younger guy will probably cheat on you eventually, they always do at least once, they are soooo immature. I hope this helps, and good luck.
2006-10-04 01:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
In your situation I would date the older man and be friends with the younger man. If you only want to be friends it is unlikely it will work out in the long run as you need some attraction to keep a relationship strong. The age gap could be a problem but I don't think you will find out until you date him.
2006-10-04 01:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by meday 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rule one: Don't pee in your sleeping bag; if one/either of these guys works with you, don't date him/them. That's only going to lead to trouble.
If that doesn't eliminate one or both, Rule two: there is no good reason you can't date them both concurrently; you said you've been without most of your life - get out and enjoy! You're just dating; if you get serious with one, set the other one loose.
2006-10-04 01:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First boyfriend date someone your own age. You'll have more in common and you'll find it easier to relate to them. Work up to the guys who are old enough to be your dad slowly one you learn how to handle a man better.
2006-10-04 01:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont say how old you are but I would go for the one that I could grow old with. If the guy is already 14 yrs your senior he has a head start. go for the one closer to your age
2006-10-04 01:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why can't you date them at the same time? the best thing to do if you have limited dating experience is to get out there! that's how you find out what type of person you would like to spend the rest of your life with!
2006-10-04 01:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
14 years different is kind of creepy go for the person you can be in a relationship longer and closer to your age
2006-10-04 01:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by lztexan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋