THIS IS DEFINATELY NOT ME. someone i know is pregnant she already has one child who she feeds sweets and pre cooked meals to he is 3 all the time because she cnt be bothered to cook. she doesnt bother to put him to bed at a set time and just lets him fall asleep on the sofa. doesnt bother to take him to nursery because she cnt be bothered to get up. lets him run around in smelly napies as she cant be bothered to change them. when other people are around or she is out she never tells him off when he is naughty and expect others to do it for her. she cant be bothered to work and is on income support and now she has got pregnant to trap her boyfriend now. she is still smoking and blames this on her 3 year old son parently she is stressed by looking after him. she doesn't do anything alday. what do you guys think?
2006-10-04 01:10:23 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's selfish and thinks its all about whats easiest and best for her.
2006-10-04 01:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sucks that just ANYONE can bring kids into the world. There are so many people trying to have a baby and give it the best life they can, and then you have people who just don't give a damn. It's sad. I can't imagine how the children will turn out. Maybe you could go over there and prepare a healthy meal for the little guy so he can see what "real" food tastes like. I know that it would upset you to see her doing absolutely nothing, but you would be doing the child a HUGE favor by paying him some attention and giving him some proper nutrition. See if the mother will give her son a multivitamin at least if nothing else. Good luck!
2006-10-04 08:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know her Family? If so, are you on friendly enough terms to have a quiet word with them about your concerns? The story you tell is all too common these days, I'm afraid. Makes my heart bleed for the Little Ones.
Be brave. A call to the Health Visitor or Social Services is long over-due in this case, by the sounds of it. Then, hopefully, you have a clear conscience that you have made a difference to the Babes when the woman gets help.
Good Luck.
2006-10-04 01:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she is a bad mother What in the world does she think she is doing by trying to trap her boyfriend by getting pregnant It doesnt work that way because if he dumps her even after she gets pregnant she is stuck with another child "to take care of" If she cant take care of them then she should give her babies up for adoption or to someone who will take proper care of them I worked in a certified child care center for 6 years and I now have my own three month old baby I quit smoking and I am being the best person i can be and I am a wonderful mother I even have help from my boyfriend and his mother so I pray that your friend gets help because the only ones getting hurt in all this BS is her three year old son and the baby she is now carrying
2006-10-04 01:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by evillynn8098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she needs to be reported to some kind of Family Services ! If she is indeed depressed or sick as some other people have suggested then she may benefit from help and understanding. I'm certainly no doctor but it sounds more to me like lazy selfishness and not wanting to really have children at all. Was the first child a "trap" as well? Those children are in serious potential danger if left in her hands. And what about the boyfriend? Does he see this? Is he aware? Is he just as bad?
2006-10-04 01:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by JiminyCricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely classify that as a bad mom. I knew a lady that had 6 children by 6 dads, never married one of them. Her 5th child at the age of 3 was found out in the woods frozen to death after a night of her partying . She did 5 yrs for neglect got out and had to do 2 more for violation her perole. Anyone who gets pregnant to trap a boyfriend probably isn't thinking as far as the responsibilities of being a good parent and the child just seems to get in the way. Henceforth- neglect!!!!!
2006-10-04 01:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by sparklinglights 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks by getting pregnant she is going to trap her boyfriend she is an idiot. Men dont stay around for anyone or anything in this day and age. Its not like the "old days".
Anyway, she was probably brought up by her parents the same way as she is bringing up her child. I feel sorry for her as it sounds like she will be left on her own with 2 kids. Then she will know what parental stress is!!!!
2006-10-04 01:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think someone needs to have a chat with this woman. A serious chat. Being a parent is all about giving. Making sacrifices. And providing a safe, clean happy environment for her children. She is most definitly selfish. Maybe you should be calling social services. You dont have to be named. This would be in the best interest of her son and the new baby. Might make her wake up a bit.
2006-10-04 10:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How on earth can she be classed as a 'MOTHER'???!!! Its beyond me how she hasnt got one guilty bone in her body for treating her son like he is not her own and to harm her baby with the smoking.
As soon as our son was born this overwhelming need to care and make the best for him was just the natural thing in the world.
How Social Services have not got in touch I have no idea. What is that boy going to think when he grows up....I am thinking that he just assume that being a slob and running riot is just the norm. How can he know what is good and bad and just acceptable if he has no stability and structure to his life.
Plus to trap her boyfriend is going to bring more grief than happiness as two children are going to be trapped between two 'adults' screaming and not going to receive the attention and love they should be getting when that is happening.
This women needs you to tell her straight that the way she is heading is just ridiculous. If she doesnt accept what you are telling her is for her own good even more so for her children then I seriously think that you should tell someone who specialises in this field.
2006-10-04 05:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neglect is also abuse. She needs to be educated on the subject of child rearing, but she sounds unwilling to learn. She does need some sort of wake up call, hopefully it will come without injury to her children. If she continues to smoke while being pregnant she either just doesn't care, or is in desperate need of someone to help teach her. She might not know any better, maybe she was raised that way.
2006-10-04 01:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by Adventurous1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs help instead of critisism. Maybe she has a touch of depression - cant you persuade her to seek help from her gp or health visitor. With some people, parenthood doesnt come naturally - depending on what their own upbringing was like. Is her mum not around to help. Why not offer to help her out or look after the 3 year old for a while to help her sort things out.
2006-10-04 01:33:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋