So I called this guy with whom I have been having sexual relationship. Didn't answer, so I left a message about how I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, just want to let him know how I feel - strong feelings - that nothing I have done is by any means his fault. I am an adult and accept responsibility for my actions, not regret it...good stuff about him, but I don't think he feels the same way at all and that I have to stop fantasizing that there would be a relationship. Didn't call back and when I see him, he won't even speak to me. I didn't say anything bad about him, but said a lot of good, especially with how he made me feel and what a good person I think he is... Wrong, or wrong way??? Your thoughts are appreciated.
2006-10-03 23:14:29 · 9 answers · asked by bones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, this could depend on how long you've been seeing the guy. It also depends on how he sees your relationship. In either case, I would move on. He seems more like a boy than a man. Not mature enough to take responsibility and talk to you about it.
2006-10-03 23:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~Feelin' Froggy~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants out. Ignore him back and don't let him use you as a booty call whenever he wants to. Find someone else to take an interest in and hopefully they won't be like the first guy who seems arrogant and up himself...even if you were just in a sexual relationship there is no reason to completely ignore you and make you feel small
2006-10-03 23:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him know that it is bothering you, that he is not talking to you. Let go of what you told him here is nothing wrong with verbalizing your feelings. Go on about your day and business, and you will see if you are worth it to him he will talk to you. If he doesn't talk to you then you need to decide if you want to continue to have a sexual relationship w/him. I think you should consider yourself more important then that.(Unless you don't mind just sex) but if you are leaving him a mess.on his phone that is telling him what a great guy he is then I think you feel more for him. Because if it was just sex then you wouldn't feel the need to tell him how HE makes you feel. You would just go for your. Good Luck & I hope you make the right decision.
2006-10-03 23:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your first mistake was leaving that type of information on a message. You never know who could hear that and it may have been embarrassing to him. When you want to tell someone that you care for them it needs to be said in person or at the very least a personal telephone conversation. You may have had the best intentions but it may have come off needy or pushy on a message. Have you ever been talking to someone on the phone and they have taken what you say wrong because they can't see your face? It happens all the time and this may be that type of situation. Save your personal comments to a real live face to face conversation.
2006-10-03 23:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you said was ok but apparently you scared him off. Maybe he thinks that was the first step to pressuring him into more than just a sexual relationship and he only wants casual sex with no feelings. He was enjoying the no strings attached kind of sex and you freaked him out even though it doesn't sound to me like you said anything too heavy. He definitely isn't into "feelings." sounds like a real jerk. he at least owes you an explanation or a "I don't want to sleep with you anymore" speech.
2006-10-03 23:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like you scared him off, like you say youve been having a sexual relationship with him, only your feelings have stepped up and you want more from it. Him being a typical bloke is enjoying the sexual relationship withuot the emotional attachment and thats the way he wants it to stay.
2006-10-03 23:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ideal he's truly smooth! So, use it antagonistic to him. no longer in a recommend way, in simple terms play at the same time with his interest. He should not be dishing it out if he cant take it! even as he says "get a sparkling jacket", say "Oh ok thanks trend police.. or, And what, get one on the goodwill like you probably did?" And even as he says "you should shave" say like, "Whats the count number you won't be able to strengthen any facial hair little boy" or, "Are you my lady friend". in reality, blow off his feedback, and turn them round so that they make him seem as if an fool. females like adult males who're sensible and humorous. once you communicate again to dude, say humorous issues, dont over imagine what you say, keep it short, and be sensible! teach the chick it doesnt difficulty you. Win her over. Make him sense like he's dumb. Smile and snigger...
2016-12-04 05:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you said too much
2006-10-03 23:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-03 23:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋