when we started off , I denied saying my parenst wont accept our relationship and hence we shud not think abt this relationship but after his convincing I agreed but now after a year he wants to leave me wanting his parents. I dont understand when once I had this question raised he said all will be fine then why today he is against. He toltaly said no for this relationship now.
What shal be done? I feel mad as I have lost both my respect from my family and my love, where do i go and what do i do??
2006-10-03 22:53:14 · 23 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tolde my family abt him and made my life miserable, he is from any\other caste which doesnt matter to me but my family. Inspte of so many tantrums at home I kept meeting him, talking with him secreatly also till date i am in touch with him coz i dont want to loose him
2006-10-03 23:02:06 · update #1
But he his the best guy, he still loves me and cares for me.
He is always concerned for me even today.
I was a pessimist and had a dry sense of dressing but today i am better than yesterdat all coz of him.
I Love him but he cannot marry me. nowIs there no way to get him back
2006-10-03 23:07:01 · update #2
He never used me. He never forced me to do anything. He is the best guy and yes its my first love. He is a muslim and I am a chinese
2006-10-03 23:14:07 · update #3
go and give him a frenck kiss .then say to him " good by hunney"
and run away crying . he will surely convince u and u will retain this friend ship back.i am damm sure .
2006-10-03 23:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about this guy he is not worth the heart ache. He was not the right person for you and be glad since now you know what a jerk he was. Use this time to figure out what you want in a realationship, what you want from the person to be your significant other. If the next person you meet doesn't meet your requirments move on to someone who does. Don't feel you need to be in a relationship to feel whole and to not be alone. If that is the only reason to be in a realshonship then you really need to look into loving urself and find ways to raise your selfesteem. Don't have sex with a guy if he asks. if he leaves you because you wont have sex, he only wants you for sex slave and doesnt really like you. so dump him like the plague if you feel he is only after sex.
Don't beleive a guy that say's he loves you either, they like to use that to get into your pants too. If he loves you he will respect you, will wait for you and want to be there for you.
2006-10-04 06:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please odnt be hurt by what others had answered, well by what had happend you have to realise to things, first i dont really think that he really loves you, for he had left for such a simple reason,and its not worth you being sad, first clear your mind relax ,trying to forget things which had happend are really hard, but you must not forget them as well they are priceless memories that you should hold on, well, i am sure you would have alot of free time now, try filling it by gaining the respect from your family, do things with them, spend times with your siblings spend time with your mother and make someting special for your father, because for the time being you need your family members the most, try reading books or go walk around if you have a pet play with it, and if none works, cry it out, crying really helps then get a night sleep, have a nice dream a glass of warm milk, wake up and its a new day to begin and you have all the time in the world to do things and correct things with your family,i hope you would feel better soon,
2006-10-04 06:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rivern 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and speak to ur family about it, this time do it together along with him. Yes take him to ur family and speak to them, try n convince them that u guys will be happy together.
more importantly be sure that u will be happy together and that u can sustain this relation for a long time to come. if ur guy is sure about this take to to ur family, If he loves u and is man enough he will do this or else he will pu tit off. This is test of love if he passes he is a true lover or else move one. Its better for u now then to be late.
Wishing u all the best, just speak to him and also try and find out wat the actual reasoong behind ur family opposing this realion is. it may be more than the cast issue, wats ur age and his age too. does he earn good enoughto take care of u.
CHEERS !
2006-10-04 06:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by abhijit m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen first of all it was ur own mistake 2 choose him instead of ur family. remember this that BF's come and go but ur family stays. they may shout at u, they may scold u, but at the end of the day they would always b there 4 u.if that person has left u don't go sobbing around him, and show him he is the best. instaed act as if u don't give a damn. AND apologise 2 ur parents.
2006-10-04 06:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful about going against your family for some guy. Your boyfriends will come and go, but your family is there always. You need to repair the damage between you and your family and forget about this guy.
2006-10-04 06:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family may be angry with you for disobeying their wishes but they are your family & will not throw you away no matter how bad the situation is. Forget about him & be happy with the love of your family. I know it is easier said than done but I know that you can work out the details. Dont worry, it will be ok.
2006-10-04 06:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is the most important thing in the life. be cool and patient , pass the time without doing anything wrong. if you love her i am 100% sure he will definitely come back . he can not live without you. this is the time only. secondly in love you must be ready for anything. be within limits. do not hurt to your family members.be with them. as he is living with his parents. try to be like him.it is sure he can not be happy with any girl in this world except you but question is when he will realise it. pray to God he should realise it before his marriage.no one can regenerate the feelings of love. it happens with the first love only. after that he can get anything except love.so do not worry he will be back but it will take time . so till that time you must be OK with your parents.try to be bold. boldness is the character of love. you should have faith in yourself and God. otherwise there is no solution of these kind of problems.
2006-10-04 06:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by KrishanRam(Jitendra k) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur BF left u then how could he been a best Friend..
I cant accept if u say he is u r BF.. BF will be with u in any circumstances..
Just leave him..free him from ur mind and search for a good one..
Advice from a good friend..
If u not get another BF try with me..
2006-10-04 06:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by aniliveon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry...he got what he wanted...you gave in....now he is looking for a girl that wont give in until she is married. Guess this is India(?) for you. There are many snakes in the wilderness.Go and find someone else who will love and respect you....this time be more careul to whom you give your heart and soul to.
2006-10-04 05:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋