This guy I've been seeing works in a restaurant. Earlier this week I met some family members at the restaurant for lunch and showed up about 10 minutes after they got there. He was working that day and wanted to know why I showed up later than they did. Then he keeps saying how he wants me to call him up more. He'll question me as to what I do when we don't see each other and where do I go when I leave my house. Sometimes he'll ask these questions in a sort of demanding yet innocent way. What do you think of this?
2006-10-03 20:57:27 · 9 answers · asked by jonda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really am confused. I told him it's best we not see each other anymore and he sounded hurt and I felt so bad. He said no one has ever treated him nice like I do and he brought me gifts, takes me out, always holding my hand or caressing my arm and tells me he misses me when we're not together. He showed me his cell phone and said he wanted me to see for myself that he calls no other women and he showed me where he lives. I feel comfortable around him and sense no signs of danger.
2006-10-04 06:19:43 · update #1
He cares about you very much. It's normal for someone who cares about another to ask such questions. For as long as he is not being possessive or domineering don't think deep into his questions. Some day when you begin to like him you will also ask such questions. Relax!
2006-10-03 21:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not good. He is not only insecure and doesn't trust you, but is possessive and controlling. Get out of the relationship right away. He isn't ready for a serious relationship and doesn't have the maturity to be in a relationship. He's trying to pressure you into something you don't want to do. He is also overstepping his bounds. He is not your fiance nor your husband. He is not entitled to the privileges that go with engagement and marriage. I've seen this sort of thing in the over 30 years I've worked in the field of law, and he has the signs of a stalker or an abuser. They often start in just this same way. Break it off right away.
2006-10-04 04:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful she might be trying to control you. It can start very very innocent. It could be a sign of jealously, or that he is controlling you. It could end up really bad situation. Remmber if someone shows interst that is love, is someone demands that is no love, and could even lead to volience. Remmber no women goes into a realtionship that she know is volinet or controling, the men do it in a way slowly slowly and then it is hard to get out.
But most women look back and see that there were warning signs.
2006-10-04 04:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealouse unsecured guy and better junk him quickly and never give him a chance to be your BF as he has shown his ego that he is too possesive. As he is interested to you to get close to you as a stepping stone to your friendship, He assumed that you have mutual understanding and treating you like his property or in his jurisdiction? You will have no good relationship with him...
2006-10-04 04:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does not trust you.He is trying to control you.It will only get worse.
2006-10-04 04:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's leash-happy. Tell him, you were 10 minutes late because, you had to take a POOP!, and is that OK with you?
2006-10-04 04:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to control you. You better tell him to shape up or ship out!
2006-10-04 04:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt trust you. sounds like he has issues
2006-10-04 04:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by hwall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is insecure and thinks that you are cheating on him.
2006-10-04 03:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋